Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Will We Be Together Soon?
June 5, 2007 by admin
Horary Question:
I met the love of my life last April 2006. He came here to the Philippines last March 17 to April 17 to be with me and asked my hand for marriage from my family. I fell in love with him even more. Ever since he came back to the US, we planned on being together again. I miss him so much and all we hope is that everything would go well with the papers for me to be able to go where my baby is and so we could be together and spend our lives with each other. I love him so much and I miss him more and more each day.
Will we have any problems with the process for us to be together? Will I be with him anytime soon within this year or early next year?
—G.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear G.,
Thank you for writing to me. I can certainly understand your anxiety and uncertainty about the situation. I cast the horoscope for the moment that I understood your question, which is a method known as horary astrology. The horary chart for your question is below:
You are shown by the Moon, ruler of the first house of self, while your fiancé is ruled by the seventh house, and its ruler, Saturn. There will be a lot of twists and turns in the process, but I do believe that the two of you will be together. We see that your planet, the Moon, will shortly square Mars. The Sun meanwhile will oppose Jupiter and then will sextile Mars. The Sun will later sextile Saturn, finishing this bucket brigade, and connecting the Moon to Saturn in the process.
Does this seem slightly convoluted? It certainly is, but the immigration process is neither quick nor simple, and this being passed from one planet to the next is a good analogy for the different stages in the process you will have to go through before moving to the US permanently with your fiancé. There’s really no reason why you would not receive your papers eventually, so I think it’s just a question of how complicated the process will be and how long it will take. Timing the events arising from a tangle of aspects like this seems near impossible, but we can certainly try.
The Moon will square Mars in about 2°, which would give us two months. Then, the Sun will sextile Saturn in about 7°. This would give us seven months. Since the Sun is in a double sign, I would be inclined to call it eight or nine months, and adding the two gives us something like 10 or 11 months from the time of the question. So I would expect you to be in the US with your fiancé inside of a year. In the meantime, be patient, as the process can be somewhat frustrating and nerve-racking. Good luck!
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Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Is He the One?
May 29, 2007 by admin
Horary Question:
I am 37 years old, and had a 4 year whirlwind live-in relationship with a guy 4 years my senior. We are very compatible on the sexual level, but both emotionally immature. Our split 3 years ago was very acrimonious. Both families got involved and his family was very one-sided. My family was much more neutral.
Part of our attraction is our differences; my family is bohemian and money poor. I am of mixed race where his is white English. He was educated privately. I never felt comfortable with his family, which has lots of unspoken rules for conduct and I suspect not comfortable with people of colour in the closer ranks.
I instigated a meet up after no contact at all these last years, and have started seeing him again, and of course sex is fantastic because I want him with my body and soul.
After 6 meetings I am getting impatient with him, but we are able to talk about things we couldn’t before. Turns out he has a new girlfriend of two years, that he says he loves. He has taken her to meet his parental home and been to France with her to meet her family. So he must be serious about this girl, at least until I came back on the scene. He says I turn him on like no other and that the sex they have is not as good. She is good for him on other levels and he calls her ‘excellent really.’
I want to end seeing him while he is in a new relationship, I don’t want to be the obstruction or excuse for him not being emotionally available to the next girl. It is difficult to stay at arms’ length, because my bio clock is ticking, I yearn for him. He tells me that he wants to be with me, but afraid of (his words) divorcing a lot of people, who were there for him, when we split, and to be disenfranchised again. These are real concerns and risks to consider.
What are the real chances of us succeeding as a couple?
—E.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear E.,
Thank you for writing to me, and wow, what a saga. As always, I cast a horoscope for the time that I understood your question, a method called horary astrology. The horoscope for your question is below:
You obviously think the world of this guy. Two of your three significators, Mercury and Venus, are in the exaltation of Jupiter. Since Jupiter rules your seventh house of partners, we know you’re putting him on a pedestal. With Jupiter in its own sign, even though it is retrograde, he is probably rather pedestal-worthy, whether in appearance or overall good personality. The only problem with his planet being in its own sign, is that it is rather uninterested in anything but its own needs. This does not mean he doesn’t care for you, as we will soon see, but I would like to see him put himself out a bit more on your behalf.
With his co-significator, the Sun, in Gemini, we see that he is very physically attracted to you, and in an ideal world, he would marry you. However, this is not enough to actually motivate him to do so. His girlfriend is one obstacle; he does care for her a good amount, though not as much as you, and she thinks the world of him. She is indicated by Saturn in Leo, the sign of the Sun.
To see whether the two of you would actually get married or have some kind of permanent relationship, we need to see if any of your planets in his planets will meet. Unfortunately, there are no upcoming aspects between your planets and his, so I am concerned that a marriage or similar exclusive relationship would not happen. I was hoping that there is some kind of third party who can be of assistance. Specifically, we would want to see Mercury (you) aspect Mars (a third party), and Mars would then aspect Jupiter (your guy). This would bring your planets and his together by the mediation of another person. The problem is that Mercury is moving very slowly, and Mercury will not aspect Mars before the latter trines Saturn. So I am afraid the other woman is going to whisk him out from under your nose, mainly because your guy does not want to do anything hasty or risky (in his mind).
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Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now?
May 18, 2007 by admin
Horary Question:
I am about to be proposed to by a wonderful man, who cares for me and who loves me very much. He does everything for me, and he is a perfect person. I care for him very much, and I can grow to love him. However, I am in love with someone else, someone I had dated previously. The person I am in love with has many influences that affect his behavior – when we are together, everything is perfect, when we are not, he questions his feelings (I am positive that his family members played a significant role in pulling us apart). Everything was going great for several years, but then for a few months, times were difficult for the both of us, misunderstandings happened, communication was bad, and he said he wanted to take a break. I don’t know what to do.
I believe that we are perfect for each other, and that we can work this out. Will this break be for good? I want to be with him, but if we will definitely not be together, then I will say yes to the man who is about to propose. If there is a chance that the person I love and I will be together, then I will not say yes. I don’t know what to do. Should I wait for the person who I am in love with, or should I say yes to the one who is about to propose?
—S.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear S.,
Why does true love have to be so complicated? If I ran the world, everyone would live happily ever after with their soulmate. But I don’t run things, so instead, I ran a horary chart for the time I understood your question. The horoscope for your question is below:
You are ruled by the ruler of the first house of self, Venus. We see that Venus is in the sign of the Moon, Cancer, and in the triplicity and detriment of Mars. Mars rules your seventh house of partners, and since you kind of like Mars, but overall you sort of dislike it, it must symbolize the guy who is about to propose to you. He is certainly marriage minded, and he has decided to pursue that with you. His significator, Mars, has just moved into the exaltation of the Sun. The Sun is one’s urge to find a mate; obviously, finding a wife is foremost on his mind. He is certainly ready to march up to the altar with you. Too bad you do not love him.
The Moon, which symbolizes your emotions, is in Gemini, where it is most interested in Mercury. Mercury must be the man with whom you’re in love. Mercury, at the moment, is most interested in himself. It is in its own sign and triplicity, so I am concerned that he is not nearly as interested in you as you are in him. Still, the Moon and Mercury are applying to conjunction, indicating an upcoming opportunity to renew the relationship. The problem is that even renewed, it’s not going to have a lot of lasting power, since he is not that deeply interested in you. But I think you will need to experience that for yourself.
So what to do? Marrying one guy while pining over another will leave you forever wondering how it would have been had you not done so. I suggest putting the potential husband on the back burner, at least ask him to wait, and let the situation with your true love play itself out. Give yourself a hard time limit, say six months, and stick to it. If Mr. Right doesn’t come back during that time, you will need to move on.
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Free Astrology Advice: Horary Question – What Happened? Will We Reunite?
January 15, 2007 by admin
Horary Question:
Last year, I started a new job and eventually noticed that one of my coworkers seemed to be interested in me. I was also becoming very interested in him – there was definitely something between us. I asked him out, but he declined because we worked together. However, he said if that weren’t the case, he’d be with me in a heartbeat.
We never saw each other outside of work, and our interactions were always very professional and appropriate. Our relationship was really never more than friendship, although my feelings for him continued to increase.
Unfortunately, my department supervisor began to bully me, set me up to fail, and instigate rumours about me within the company. I knew she considered me a threat, and I wondered if she had taken an unhealthy interest in my friendship with this man and was somehow jealous.
This man seemed to distance himself from me, although he never treated me any differently. I used to see him all the time at work, and then suddenly, he was never around. By July, I hardly ever saw him, and in September, I quit the company because I couldn’t stand the bullying and harassment from my supervisor. I haven’t seen or spoken with him since then.
My question is basically: What happened? It seemed that he and I were getting along very well, and I have absolutely no doubt that there was something between us, and then suddently it was gone. Apart from possible interference from my supervisor, I cannot seem to find an obvious reason for the feeling to just go completely dead, unless I completely misunderstood his attentions.
Was he really interested in me? And if so, why did everything suddenly disappear? Is there any chance that he and I may renew our bond in the future?
—R.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear R.,
Situations like the one you describe always make me wonder what the heck was really going on behind the scenes. In my experience, a lot of workplace politics is stranger than fiction, and often, when relationships in the workplace come to light, one can feel as though one is living on the set of a soap opera. So when I examine this horary horoscope, I will keep an eye out for interesting and complex relationships you may not have known about. The horary chart for your question is below:
In this horary chart, you are shown by Mercury, ruler of the first house of self. We will also look at Venus, which rules your female urge to find a mate, and at the Moon, which shows your emotions. The man in question is shown by Jupiter, ruler of your seventh house of partners, and by the Sun, which shows his male urge to find a mate. We will look at the way these planets interact to determine the influences upon your relationship.
We see that the Moon is in Sagittarius in the seventh house, showing that emotionally, you are still quite interested in your former coworker. We also see that you have mostly gotten over the heartbreaking nature of the situation, since we see that your significator, Mercury, has just moved out of Capricorn, where it was in the fall of Jupiter, into Aquarius. Your acute disappointment in the unpleasant end of the relationship has mostly passed.
We see that the Moon has just separated from a sextile to Venus, and prior to that, separated from a conjunction with Jupiter. When we see a separating aspect between the two people you want to bring together, this usually means that the two of you got as close together to a relationship as is going to happen. This notion is confirmed by the fact that Jupiter is in its own sign in Sagittarius, where it is in the detriment of Mercury. In other words, this man is very interested in protecting himself at work and he has his own interests in mind, and this harms you (Mercury). In short, I do not think that a relationship will be rekindled with him, since he is too interested in himself to put himself out for you.
So, it looks as though the reason he backed away from the relationship, was that it was starting to impinge upon his comfort level. If he found himself having feelings for you, this was not part of his plan, and he had to distance himself.
I did wonder to what degree your former boss played into this. The boss is shown by the ruler of your 10th house of superiors, Saturn, which is in its detriment in Leo, and retrograde. This is one nasty individual, and the fact that Saturn is in an angular house, shows that she had the means to really make your life unpleasant, and she did. Saturn squares the ascendant-descendant axis in mundo, harming your relationships. What is interesting is that Saturn is not in negative dignities of Mercury, suggesting that whatever she did to you, it was not personal. It was strictly business. Note that Saturn is in Leo, which is ruled by the Sun. As you will recall, the Sun is the “me Tarzan” part of your former coworker. I do believe your boss was interested in this man, and she did what she could to get you out of the picture.
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Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Which Guy Should I Choose?
January 4, 2007 by admin
Question:
I am 25 and I am in a horrible dilemma. I have been in a relationship for 3 years, and it has been working just fine. I met my boyfriend in college and we were friends before falling in love. Ten days ago I met another guy, but he isn’t a complete stranger either. He was my desk mate at school 10 years ago, he used to be in love with me, but he left the country. I haven’t seen him until now. We met by chance in the street and then we went out for a simple date and something strange happened: I felt an incredible attraction for him. I didn’t cheat on my boyfriend, but I feel as if I did. Now he tells me that he loves me and he would come back home for me if I ask him to. I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend but I don’t want to lose the other guy, either.
Everything is so complicated. The new guy has a life outside the country and coming back home implies a lot of changes. I know almost nothing about him, but I have fallen in love with him. What should I do? Should I try to work things out with my boyfriend or should I start a relationship with the new guy?
—R.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear R.,
That is quite a dilemma that you are facing, though I suspect that this is one of those things that will become clear in and of itself with a little bit of time. I suspect that you will figure out whether the other guy was really serious about you – will he stay in contact after leaving the country, and so on.
I cast a horoscope for the moment I understood your question, using a method known as horary astrology. This method is very old, and it works on the principle that the answer to your question is contained in the horoscope for the moment of the question. It used to be very popular back when people didn’t know their time or date of birth, or simply couldn’t afford a full natal reading. This method works very well for questions that are specific and immediate. The horoscope for your horary question is below:
In this horoscope, you are shown by Venus, ruler of the first house of self, and the Moon, which shows your emotions. Venus is just exiting Virgo, the sign where it was very weak because it was in its fall. It is moving into its own sign of Libra, so we can see that you are about to make a decision that will strengthen you and will generally improve things.
The first order of business is identifying the two men in the chart; we have only one house — the seventh house — that represents significant others. However, we have two significant others in the chart. So one of them will be the old boyfriend and the other will be the new guy. We see that both Venus and the Moon are about to move into signs strongly influenced by Saturn; Venus will exalt Saturn in Libra, while the Moon will be in Saturn’s sign of Capricorn shortly. What is Saturn doing in the chart? It is in Leo, where it is very weak, because it is in the sign of its detriment. It is also strongly influenced by the ruler of Leo, the Sun. The Moon has just separated from a trine of Saturn. So Saturn is one of our guys.
However, we also have the look at the seventh house of partners, because one of the men will be shown by this house and its ruler. The seventh house is ruled by Mars, which is in Libra in the first house. The physical attraction of this particular Mars man is shown by the Sun, which is also in Libra in the first house. So we can see that the Mars man is very interested in you, because both of his significators are in your sign of Libra.
Since we know that the Sun shows the physical nature of one of the men, we can see that Saturn is very much at the mercy of the other man. However, the feeling is mutual, because in Libra, the Sun and Mars exalts Saturn, attributing more influence to the other man than he really has.
Most likely, Saturn is the current boyfriend, and Mars is the new guy. We know that the new guy appears to be very much in love with you, so we can see that the two significators in your house are probably his. However, with Venus moving into the detriment of Mars and the fall of the Sun, we most likely see you coming back to your boyfriend and rejecting the new guy (perhaps because the new guy will not stay in touch or being with him would be impractical for some reason). Nonetheless, with the Moon moving into Capricorn, your feelings will go back to your boyfriend (Saturn rules Capricorn), but will exalt Mars — and you will likely have fond memories and thoughts of what could have been with your old schoolmate.
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Free Astrology Advice: Horary Horoscope – Will He Come Back? I Miss Him!
December 13, 2006 by admin
Question:
My boyfriend of three and a half years have not spoken in over a month. This is not the first time we have had a separation like this, however, before it was only two weeks or so, not over a month. There was no break up — there was no goodbye… just a click – and that is it. I miss him terribly, my heart aches. My children miss him and ask about him — they are used to him being here and gone for a few days, but I cannot keep telling them he is still at work!
I am a single Mom of three kids. My children ADORE him, and he is excellent with them. He has been such a steadfast presence in my life. He has been an incredible gift from above…
A major issue between us was money. He lives at home with his parents, he has a good-sized nest egg in the bank, he has no bills (his car is paid off) and he is extremely cheap.
I am hoping you can give me some insight or some advise as to what to do, or what is going on with us. Will he come back ? I have no desire to seek love elsewhere… He is all I see for my future, but lately – it seems bleak.
—A.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear A.,
I am sorry to hear about your break-up, as these things are always so traumatic for everyone. Let us see what the stars say. As always, I cast a chart for the moment I understood your question, which is a method known as horary astrology, an old method where the answer to a question is contained in the horoscope for the question itself. This is perhaps the oldest form of astrology, far preceding the widespread use of natal horoscopes which are so familiar to us today. The horoscope for your question is below:
We see that the Ascendant is on the fixed star Aldebaran, which promises new beginnings and a new cycle in general. The Ascendant represents you in this situation, so it makes us think that you are about to embark on a new adventure. Your significator is Mercury at 24 Libra, where it is conjunct the fixed star Spica, which is a benefic star showing that everything is going to be okay; even if you don’t get everything you wish for exactly, things will be good. Mercury is pretty strong here, because it is in its own triplicity, so we see that you haven’t taken leave of your senses because of this breakup.
Your co-significators are Venus in Virgo, which shows your feminine, mate-finding side, and the Moon in Sagittarius, which shows your emotions. Venus is very weak in Virgo, which is the sign of its fall, showing us that you are sad and upset over this. The good news is that Venus will soon move into Libra, which is its own sign, so we see that you are coming into your own. Along with the Ascendant showing a new beginning, this is a very positive thing. The Moon is in the seventh house (and no, Fifth Dimension fans, Jupiter is not aligned with Mars), indicating that your guy is very much on your mind. Interestingly, the Moon is conjunct the fixed star Antares which shows the ending of a cycle. So we see one cycle ending and a new one beginning.
Your guy is shown by Jupiter, ruler of your seventh house of partners. Jupiter is not liking you at the moment. It is in Scorpio, where it is in the detriment of Venus and the fall of the Moon. For whatever reason, your guy is upset and strongly so. However, all is not totally lost. His co-significator, the Sun, which shows his male mate-finding urge, is in the sign of Libra, where it is controlled by Venus, which is you. The problem is that in Libra, the Sun is in the sign of its fall and therefore it finds it difficult to act.
We see that the Moon has recently separated from a sextile of the Sun, about three and some degrees ago, which means that you two have not spoken for four weeks and a bit. The biggest challenge that I see here is that none of your planets are contacting his planets. Also, he just doesn’t seem to be that motivated to continue the relationship, unlike you. This makes me suspect that you will try to rekindle the relationship, but I am not sure that this patient can be easily resuscitated. Given the man’s feelings, I am not sure that pushing him will accomplish very much. At least in the foreseeable future, I think you’ll have to content yourself by taking this very slowly and being prepared for some amount of rejection.
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Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Will My Boyfriend Return to Me?
December 11, 2006 by admin
Question:
My boyfriend broke up with me via text message last night after an argument. For the last month or so, we have been butting heads often, mostly over time, or the lack of or over calling, or not calling. He has met my parents, shopped with my mother & I, met my cousins ( I have a huge family), met my grandmother, fixed stuff all around her house. I assumed nothing, except that everything he said to me was the truth. He spoke of marriage, moving in together, wanting babies, wanting to appreciate me, blah, blah, blah. He called constantly daily & nightly for months.
I am 25 and a graduate student, no kids, never married, and (not tooting my own horn, but just going off of others’ comments) very, very pretty and very curvy, appealing figure. He is 22 and is an aspiring business entrepreneur, has one son that is 18 months old, and never married his son’s mother who is 21, but they all lived together for a few months. They broke up when the baby was 2 months old.
My heart is crushed & I feel weak which is not a feeling I’m used to. I’m finding it hard to concentrate because all I keep thinking is, “How could you be so stupid!” Will we get back together, or should I move on?
—D.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear D.,
Your situation sounds difficult, and it’s obvious that you are still very attached to him. Since you broke up so recently, I am sure that the situation is not beyond repair. I do find it kind of…unpleasant that he broke up with you via text message.
Below is the horary chart for your question. Horary astrology, which is the technique I use on this blog (and in my practice) to answer questions, is an ancient method used to cast horoscopes for the moment of a question. It is the birth chart of one’s question, and the answer is contained therein.
You are shown by Mars and he is shown by Venus. Mars is in Libra, the Sun ruled by Venus, so we can see that you are extremely interested in him. However, there is also another subtext here; you are in love with him because you are not quite content with yourself or are attracted to bad boys. This is not exactly the most healthy dynamic. I suspect that the reason that you two had difficulties in your relationship was connected to his son. Venus, your boyfriend’s planet, is in his fifth house of children, and as a result, Venus is in the sign of its fall. In other words, he cannot give you the affection you need because he is spending so much time and energy on his child.
His masculine side, or his physical side, is shown by the Sun, which is in Libra, where it is in its fall. He is clearly not giving you the attention you crave. So will you get back together? I think you will, but I do not think that it will last. The Moon, your co-significator, is in Sagittarius, where it is in the detriment of Mercury. It will shortly sextile the Sun, but the two planets are not that interested in one another. This is not the stuff of lasting relationships. You may come to some kind of uneasy truce about him spending less time with his son and more time with you. However, I do not think that you can maintain that state. His planet, Venus, is about to move into its own sign, so we can see that he is going to get into his comfort zone, but Libra is also the detriment of Mars, so this will be at your expense. Frankly, based on how the chart shows him, I am not very enthusiastic about him, and feel that you could do better.
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Free Astrology Advice – Horary Astrology: Will We Have a Long-Term Relationship? Kids?
November 2, 2006 by admin
Question:
Three months ago I “met” a man over the Internet and we are in a relationship; he’s planing to come to my place in December so we could meet each other and see what happens between us. Since we both are adults we are taking things slow but everything seems fine. I would like to know how you see this relationship. Could it be a long term one? He says he’s looking for that and I would want the same. Another thing I would like to know is if we could have a child together at some point. I already have a kid from my previous marriage. He doesn’t have kids but wants them and the truth is I would like to have another kid also.
—C.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear C.,
Thanks for sending in your question. Sometimes people ask me when they are going to meet their soul mate and all but want me to produce one for them. I think more realistically, astrology can tell you whether the man is a saint or a serial killer, or whether he is just okay, the last being the most likely. Too, we can see whether your feelings will change in the future or his feelings will change, which will give us a hint as to whether the relationship can last.
I cast a chart for the moment I understood your question, which is a method known as horary astrology. This method is based on the idea that the answer to a question is contained in the horoscope cast for the moment of the question. The chart for your question is below:
You are shown by Venus which is in Virgo in the 12th house, and the Moon, which is in Libra in the first house. Venus is in its fall, and it is on the 12th house of self undoing, which gives us the sense of grasping after straws here. But if we waited until we were in the perfect place to allow us to start a relationship, we would never start one. I do not love the fact that Venus is applying to conjunction of the South node, which is very malefic, so that would be one piece of evidence against this relationship being a good long-term bet. However, if you look at the Moon, we do see that it is conjunct the very benefic and protective star Spica. Even here, however, the testimony is not entirely positive. The Moon is void of course, which means that it will make no further aspects to any other planet before it leaves its current sign. Usually, void of course means nothing will happen. But this testimony can be overridden by convincing contrary evidence.
We see the man is ruled by Mars, ruler of your seventh house of partners, and the Sun. Both of the planets are in Libra, so the man is very interested in you, as the planets are in a sign ruled by your planet, Venus. The only challenge here is that both Mars and the Sun are very weak in Libra; the Sun is in its fall there and Mars is in its detriment. So there is a sense that he is very interested in you, but he may not be able to deliver on the initial promise. I’m also a little bit concerned that we don’t have a lot of fixed signs prominent in this chart. If we are asking about whether a situation will last, we’ll want to see either Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, or Aquarius prominent. Here, we get predominately Cardinal signs, which may be a hint that the situation starts strong but peters out in the long-term.
The thing that I am curious about, and this is something that you didn’t address in your question is that neither the Moon nor Venus seem very interested in the man’s planets. It could be because you are predominantly interested in your own emotional security here and it’s really not that much about him. To be fair, you haven’t yet met the guy, and the Moon is moving from Libra into Scorpio, which is Mars’s sign. So there is a sense that you will get emotionally interested in him much more than you are now.
Finally, asked whether you would have kids together. Your fifth house is ruled by Saturn, which is in the barren sign of Leo. So that is one argument against kids. His fifth house (the radical 11th) has this barren Saturn in it, which is not a positive sign for children from his end, either. Also, none of your or his significators is aspecting Saturn, so I would not think that pregnancy is imminent for you.
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Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Should I Stay or Should I Go?
October 31, 2006 by admin
Question:
I am in desperate need of advice about my current situation, should I leave my partner or remain and focus on repairing our relationship. We have two children together and have been together on and off for seven years, but recently I have been very frustrated as I am more wild, creative, and imaginative than my partner. And if he lets me get close I do not usually feel interested. Is this going to pass? My karma said I was a Sagittarius in my past life and I need to stop reverting back to it, by being single and needing freedom.
—L.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear L.,
I am really not an expert on anything karma related, but it seems to me that being in a seven-year relationship with two kids is a pretty heavy commitment, so you’re doing okay on the karmic front.
Perhaps from an astrological perspective, we’ll get a better picture of what is going on in your relationship. I must admit I’m kind of puzzled; your difficulties seem to be emotional as well as sexual, but a lot of it seems to have to do with the communication between the two of you. On the other hand, if you have been together seven years, presumably you’re not afraid to talk about major issues. So, let’s take a look at your chart.
As always, I set a horoscope for the time that I understood your question, which is a method known as horary astrology. This is a method that is very old and dates back from thousands of years ago. It was very popular because one did not need a time, date or place of birth to get very clear and specific answers to questions of all sorts. On this blog, I get most of the questions that have to do with love, career, money and so on. But the range of questions we can answer is far greater. A few examples that immediately come to mind are asking when a certain type of stock or commodity will go up so we know when to sell, general celebrity gossip (“Is Mr. Hollywood cheating on Mrs. Hollywood?”), determining paternity, finding your lost stuff and almost anything else you can think of. To get back to your question, the horoscope for your question is below:
You are represented by Jupiter, Lord of the first house of self. Jupiter is not terribly fabulous. It is in Scorpio, where it doesn’t have a lot of strength, and it is in the 12th house of self undoing. My long-term readers will note that the 12th house usually shows a person to be their own worst enemy in a situation, and is often indicated when someone is ill or depressed or otherwise in a swamp of their own device. The 12th house does not have anything to do with spirituality, as some astrologers claim. Either that or many of the people who write into this column are actually highly advanced spiritual gurus and I just never picked up on it. In Scorpio, Jupiter is in the fall of the Moon and the detriment of Venus. We see that you are unhappy with your emotional state as well as your “I am Woman” instincts and general attractiveness.
Part of the problem is that you’re not feeling really good about yourself as a woman right now, whether this is physical or more profound and that you’re not feeling your needs are satisfied. We notice that Venus is in the sign of its fall and it is also on the midheaven, so we see that your physical needs are primarily what is on your mind. Seemingly, everything is good. Your partner, represented by Mercury in Libra is very interested in you, Venus. More accurately, he likes you because he wants to have a partner and he is physically attracted to you. Since Venus is in the sign of Mercury, Virgo, we see the relationship is at least superficially working out. The problem is that Venus is not in Gemini, the seventh house of the partner, but rather we see that you are with him because you don’t feel too good about yourself. This is why you’re experiencing this tension.
Does this mean you should leave? I do not think this would necessarily solve your problems. The man seems rather interested in you; the Sun has just moved into Libra, showing that he has become very interested in you physically. Mercury is in the middle of Libra, so his feelings about you are not about to change. Mercury in Libra as such is fine, you could do a lot worse than this guy. I think your main challenge is to get to a point where you feel good about yourself and about your life. This is something that you can accomplish in or out of this relationship, so I do not think it makes much difference where you stay or leave; that will have to be determined by the practicalities of the situation and whether you think you can raise two kids on your own.
I do notice that the Moon is about to conjoin Mercury, which is really the only impending movement in the situation. So we can see that you will shortly invest more of your emotions in the relationship. I think the better course of action is to work on yourself first, and critique what is going on with you and your life. The best advice I can give is to work from the inside out. If you change yourself, only then can you go and change the rest of your world. This is often very painful, but nobody can do it for you and it won’t fix itself. My sense is that if you do this properly, the relationship may well come to a close all of its own accord. This is because the fixed star Antares is on the ascendant. Antares is a Royal star that shows endings, and we may well see a natural ending to this relationship as you figure out what to do with yourself.
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Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Career, Love and Marriage, Oh My!
October 30, 2006 by admin
Question:
I would like to know about my love life in the future, mainly if I will marry and be happy, also if my ex-boyfriend will come back to me, or if the current man I am with is the one (I am 20 years old, by the way)? I want to explore near and far future, if that is possible. I would also like to know about my career path, what is going to happen with my career, what will I be, and how will I get started?
—T.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear T.,
Perhaps because I tend to be overly descriptive myself, I am in awe at the way in which you put so many important issues in such a short space. This would be an excellent place in which to let my readers know that if they want more specific information in their answers, they will need to include more specifics. That said, it’s amazing just how much blood we can squeeze from a stone, or rather how much information we can squeeze from such a short question. Typically, answers of as major import as you mention are best reserved for in-depth natal readings, which I also do off the blog for a fee. However, because this advice column is about horary astrology, I am sure that the readers will appreciate the way in which we can get to the important issues even without delving into the deep recesses of a person’s horoscope.
As always in this column, I used horary astrology to analyze your question. This is a very ancient method which uses the moment of the question to find an answer in the horoscope cast for the question. If you think about it, everything in the universe has a birth chart, no matter how great or small. Your question has a chart as well, and inside it is the answer. The horary chart for your question is below:
You gave multiple questions; this is fine, and I will take your questions in the order in which you have given them. In this horoscope, you are shown by Venus. Venus is not doing terribly well in this horoscope, or it should say it thinks it’s doing okay, but it really isn’t. Venus is in Virgo, which is the sign of its fall — Venus is also in its triplicity. So we have this interesting ambiguity, were planet is doing okay (triplicity), but the overall picture is relatively bleak (Venus is in fall). Venus is also in the 12th house, which it rules, because 12th house is the house of self undoing. Venus is a seductive planet, showing that we all have a tendency to very easily slip into self undoing and bad habits. So this gives us a picture as to what is going on with you, you’re probably not making very good decisions right now, but you feel pretty good about that. In other words, you are happily self undoing.
Marriage is definitely possible for you; since you’re 20 years old, the odds are going to be heavily tilted toward your marrying at least once during your lifetime. I don’t see any afflictions to the seventh house or its ruler that would be total deal breakers, so I can only assume that you will marry. The fact that Mars, the Lord of the seventh house, the house of partners, is in the first house itself, shows us that you’ll probably marry pretty easily, and the guide will come to you of his own accord. The Moon is also applying to Venus in Virgo, which is an overall good indication for marriage. I am not too thrilled to see this happening in the 12th house and also in Virgo, which is a barren sign, but I think this will speak more to the quality of the marriage.
Even if we look at the part of marriage, which is a point calculated using the degree of the ascendant, the ascendant, and the position of Venus, we see that it is at 18° Aries in the seventh house, and the picture is not terribly positive. Its ruler is Mars in Libra in the first house. The fact that Mars is angular and in your own house shows that you will get married, likely within a few years and easily. However, I am not sure that the marriage will be of very good quality. Would you want your marriage to be symbolized by the God of war in the sign of his detriment? I should think not. Most likely, you’ll marry quickly, but the relationship will be far better at the beginning than later on. Depending on your cultural and religious views, this may mean that you will divorce.
I also wanted to know if your boyfriend will come back. I think there will be an opportunity for him to come back, but I don’t think anything will come of it. The Moon will translate light between Venus and the Sun, with the Sun being his male libido aspect, so there is some sense of mutual physical attraction here, but when the Moon conjoins the Sun, we are going to get a solar eclipse. This does not bode well for the relationship. So I do not think you’ll come back, but I do not think you have a whole lot to regret, given that his planet, the Sun is not in very good shape here. Yes, it will move into Libra, where it loves Venus (you!) soon, but there are no upcoming aspects to confirm your getting together.
I think your current guy is a better bet, if he is Mercury in Libra in the first house, as I suspect. You like him, he likes you (note the mutual reception by sign), and he seems much more desirable than the ex boyfriend. The Sun is just not doing too well, given that it’s about to be eclipsed. I’d rather have a Mercury in Libra, even though it doesn’t have a whole lot of dignity, but it’s just doing so much better than the Sun. Does this mean that your current boyfriend is Mr. Soulmate, who will love you forever and ever? Maybe. You could do a lot worse.
You also asked about your career, and wanted to know what you will be when you grow up. Whenever people ask about careers in horary questions, I always request that they give me a few options. There are just way too many jobs out there in the world, so we have to narrow it down. If your career is shown by the Moon in Virgo about to conjoin Venus (because Moon rules your 10th house of career), we have a few interesting possibilities. The 12th house is normally malefic, so this could just show that your career will not be a good one all have to do with the self undoing professions, which I will be if your imagination. However, the 12th house also rules prisons and large animals. So you could work as a corrections person, but given that your career is shown by the Moon, you’d be more likely to be a counselor in some institution of that sort. You might also work with animals, such as a vet or something. The fact that the Moon is with Venus, and in a Mercury sign gives us a sense that there is some analytical work as well as aesthetic work involved here. One possibility is that you are destined to be a designer of horse dress for racehorses. Obviously, I’m only joking, but if we do not have options to choose from, we have to use our imagination, and mine is extremely fertile.
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