Free Astrology Advice: Horary Question – Will We Marry in 2007?
January 31, 2007 by admin
Horary Question:
Single, happy, independent. Not in a relationship, but met someone over the Internet. He lives in England, and I live in the Middle East. We have been cyber and telephonic friends since last fall. I will meet him at the end of January as he flies over to the Middle East on holiday. He cannot seem to secure a more rewarding job than his current one in England. I will not relocate over there. We seem to really hit it off. I am more gregarious than he is. The only fee atng I get that worries me is that he could be a silent type which I am not sure if I could handle for long periods. At present we both appear to be smitten with each other. Will we get married this year?
—T.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear T.,
I’m glad to hear that you are in a promising relationship, and I hope that your meeting earlier this month went well. I am always fascinated when people tell me they meet others over the Internet and finally decide to meet in person: I can only imagine how exciting and scary it must feel at the same time. This must be doubly true since the two of you live so far apart; it’s not the same as hopping down to your local coffee shop for a first date.
I set the chart for the moment I understood your question, and below is the horary horoscope:
You are shown by the Moon and Venus, while the guy in question is shown by the Lord of your seventh house of partners, Saturn. His co-significator is the Sun, which shows his male urge to find a mate. What struck me immediately was the degree to which each of you are primarily interested in your own lives, rather than going out and being in a relationship. I suspect that this has to do with the fact neither of you is willing or able to move, which would make the relationship rather difficult to pursue over the long-term.
The Moon is in its own sign, while Venus is in its exaltation. You are very much staying right where you are, and I don’t think you are about to change for this guy. His two planets, the Sun and Saturn, are in mutual reception, showing that he is primarily interested in his life as well. Neither of your planets are about to meet, which tells me that it will be very difficult for the two of you to meet halfway. I also see that Venus has recently left the sign of Aquarius, which tells me that perhaps you were recently interested in him, but are now much less interested. I also noticed that the Moon has recently separated from an opposition to Mars in the seventh house. Hopefully, your meeting went well. The planets seem less than encouraging on this count. Unfortunately, I don’t think the two of you will get married this year, just because neither of you seems that interested in dramatically changing their lives to please the other person.
— Readers who wish to get a horary reading (free or paid) with Nina Gryphon may do so via the astrology readings webpage.
Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Ever Marry Despite Skin Disease?
January 22, 2007 by admin
Horary Question:
I want to know if and when I get married to the right person and whether our relationship will work out or not. I am very depressed because of some past experiences, and feel continuously rejected because of my face. I am in my early twenties, and had skin problems for years, which makes me very ugly. I am worried that no one will marry me.
—G.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear G.,
I am very sorry to hear about your problem, and sympathize because life is not always fair. In a perfect world, we would all be beautiful and perfect and have our choice of marriage partners. In reality, this is not so, and looks are unfortunately often important in how others value us.
I set a horoscope for the time that I understood your question, a technique known as horary astrology, wherein it once at the chart for the time the question is understood, and the answer is contained in the horoscope. The horary chart for your question is below:
You significator is Venus, ruler of the first house of self. Venus is not in terrible shape, it is Peregrine in the sign of Aquarius. So we can see that while you may not win beauty pageants because of your skin problems, you’re far from ugly. Venus is directly opposite Saturn, which is always a malefic planet, but especially now, because it is in the sign of detriment, Leo, and retrograde. Since Saturn rules the skin, we see that your skin is in a bad state and it is afflicting you.
You are also shown by the Moon, which is your co-significator, and it primarily shows your emotional state. The Moon is in the 12th house of self undoing and imprisonment, and it is very commonly seen in horary charts where the person is depressed or has given up all hope. The indication here is that you are in a prison largely of your own making, and have developed a complex. This is completely unnecessary, but you’re the only one who can decide that this disease is not going to run your life.
I believe you can get married; the situation is nowhere near as hopeless as you think it is. The Moon is in a fertile sign, which is a strong testimony for marriage. Venus is not very interested in the Sun or Mars, your future husband’s significators, which makes me think you’re not putting very much effort into trying to meet people or putting yourself out there as marriageable. This goes back to that Moon in the 12th house of self undoing – unless you make an effort, your results are going to be bad.
Your potential husband is shown by the ruler of the seventh house of partners, Mars, and his co-significator, the Sun. We can see when and if these significators will meet yours to see when will be the best opportunities for marriage. Our best bet is likely the Moon moving into Aries and squaring Mars. This will happen in 14° or so, so I would be inclined to look at this as months. Hopefully, this is not years, but I trust that the opportunity will come in just over a year.
You are also concerned that you might not be able to get the kind of husband you want, but I think you’ll be pretty pleased. I don’t expect him to be full of manly vim and vigor, but he is going to be a solid guy, and may in fact be from a higher social position or financial status than yourself. This is because Mars is exalted, though the Sun, representing his masculine side, is in its detriment in Aquarius.
—Readers who wish to get a reading may contact Nina Gryphon through her astrology readings webpage.
Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Will I Marry and Have Children? When?
January 8, 2007 by admin
Horary Question:
I would like to know if, when and who I will marry and if and when we will have children. I am a 34 1/2 year old single woman who has had long term relationships but nothing panned out. I would love to find, meet and be in a long term relationship leading to a family of my own. I am pretty full and happy in my life and would like to share it with someone and my biological clock is ticking. Due to my age, I am not averse to adoption and would welcome it even as a single person, but would prefer to have a family with a husband or steady long term partner that I love and who loves me. I know I am older so hope if there are children they will be healthy.
—L.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear L.,
Your question is certainly not uncommon; even with all of our supposed advances in women’s liberation, most women are still deeply concerned by just such questions. When we see a question like yours, the first thing to figure out is whether the requested husband and children will materialize. Once we have established that they will, only then can we determine the exact circumstances.
I cast a horoscope for the moment that I understood your question, using the method known as horary astrology. Horary astrology comes from the Greek word meaning “of the hour” because the horoscope is set for the moment the question was born, as it were. The answer to your question will be found in the horoscope for the question. The horary chart for your question is below:
Let us address the marriage issue first. You are shown by Mercury, Venus, and the Moon. Your future husband is shown by Jupiter and the Sun. We would want to find an aspect between your planets and his to determine that the two of you will in fact marry. The good news is that in this chart — and this is quite unusual — we have more aspects than we can shake a stick at.
The Moon (your emotional side) will trine Jupiter in about 5°, giving us one piece of evidence. Mercury (you as a personality) will conjoin the Sun (his male “must find mate” side) in about 2°. Finally, Venus (your female side) will sextile Jupiter in about 9°. Some of these combinations have better receptions than others; but they can still bring about marriage. Of all of these, I would probably put the most faith in the Mercury-Sun conjunction. Because it is in a Cardinal sign and a succedent house, the normal way to time it would be two months; this would be a fairly rapid marriage, indeed. To be on the safe side, I would probably extend it out to two years and say you’ll get engaged within two years.
So, we have marriage. Now let us see whether we can locate some kids in the chart. Both Mercury and Jupiter are in moderately fertile signs, though Mercury is afflicted because of its proximity to the Sun, which is considered a pretty strong planetary affliction. So there is about a 25% chance of having kids. Because of the affliction to Mercury, I would not expect a giant brood of them running about the place. Something more modest on the order of one child or so seems more likely. The most likely aspect showing children would be Moon conjunct Saturn; we can usually push through various intermediate aspects in this case. This would also give about a two-year indication; it’s probably safe to say that if you do not have kids within two or three years or so, it is rather unlikely you’ll have them.
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Free Astrology Advice – Horary Astrology: Will We Have a Long-Term Relationship? Kids?
November 2, 2006 by admin
Question:
Three months ago I “met” a man over the Internet and we are in a relationship; he’s planing to come to my place in December so we could meet each other and see what happens between us. Since we both are adults we are taking things slow but everything seems fine. I would like to know how you see this relationship. Could it be a long term one? He says he’s looking for that and I would want the same. Another thing I would like to know is if we could have a child together at some point. I already have a kid from my previous marriage. He doesn’t have kids but wants them and the truth is I would like to have another kid also.
—C.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear C.,
Thanks for sending in your question. Sometimes people ask me when they are going to meet their soul mate and all but want me to produce one for them. I think more realistically, astrology can tell you whether the man is a saint or a serial killer, or whether he is just okay, the last being the most likely. Too, we can see whether your feelings will change in the future or his feelings will change, which will give us a hint as to whether the relationship can last.
I cast a chart for the moment I understood your question, which is a method known as horary astrology. This method is based on the idea that the answer to a question is contained in the horoscope cast for the moment of the question. The chart for your question is below:
You are shown by Venus which is in Virgo in the 12th house, and the Moon, which is in Libra in the first house. Venus is in its fall, and it is on the 12th house of self undoing, which gives us the sense of grasping after straws here. But if we waited until we were in the perfect place to allow us to start a relationship, we would never start one. I do not love the fact that Venus is applying to conjunction of the South node, which is very malefic, so that would be one piece of evidence against this relationship being a good long-term bet. However, if you look at the Moon, we do see that it is conjunct the very benefic and protective star Spica. Even here, however, the testimony is not entirely positive. The Moon is void of course, which means that it will make no further aspects to any other planet before it leaves its current sign. Usually, void of course means nothing will happen. But this testimony can be overridden by convincing contrary evidence.
We see the man is ruled by Mars, ruler of your seventh house of partners, and the Sun. Both of the planets are in Libra, so the man is very interested in you, as the planets are in a sign ruled by your planet, Venus. The only challenge here is that both Mars and the Sun are very weak in Libra; the Sun is in its fall there and Mars is in its detriment. So there is a sense that he is very interested in you, but he may not be able to deliver on the initial promise. I’m also a little bit concerned that we don’t have a lot of fixed signs prominent in this chart. If we are asking about whether a situation will last, we’ll want to see either Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, or Aquarius prominent. Here, we get predominately Cardinal signs, which may be a hint that the situation starts strong but peters out in the long-term.
The thing that I am curious about, and this is something that you didn’t address in your question is that neither the Moon nor Venus seem very interested in the man’s planets. It could be because you are predominantly interested in your own emotional security here and it’s really not that much about him. To be fair, you haven’t yet met the guy, and the Moon is moving from Libra into Scorpio, which is Mars’s sign. So there is a sense that you will get emotionally interested in him much more than you are now.
Finally, asked whether you would have kids together. Your fifth house is ruled by Saturn, which is in the barren sign of Leo. So that is one argument against kids. His fifth house (the radical 11th) has this barren Saturn in it, which is not a positive sign for children from his end, either. Also, none of your or his significators is aspecting Saturn, so I would not think that pregnancy is imminent for you.
—Interested readers may email Nina Gryphon for a private consultation at nina@gryphonastrology.com.
Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Should I Stay or Should I Go?
October 31, 2006 by admin
Question:
I am in desperate need of advice about my current situation, should I leave my partner or remain and focus on repairing our relationship. We have two children together and have been together on and off for seven years, but recently I have been very frustrated as I am more wild, creative, and imaginative than my partner. And if he lets me get close I do not usually feel interested. Is this going to pass? My karma said I was a Sagittarius in my past life and I need to stop reverting back to it, by being single and needing freedom.
—L.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear L.,
I am really not an expert on anything karma related, but it seems to me that being in a seven-year relationship with two kids is a pretty heavy commitment, so you’re doing okay on the karmic front.
Perhaps from an astrological perspective, we’ll get a better picture of what is going on in your relationship. I must admit I’m kind of puzzled; your difficulties seem to be emotional as well as sexual, but a lot of it seems to have to do with the communication between the two of you. On the other hand, if you have been together seven years, presumably you’re not afraid to talk about major issues. So, let’s take a look at your chart.
As always, I set a horoscope for the time that I understood your question, which is a method known as horary astrology. This is a method that is very old and dates back from thousands of years ago. It was very popular because one did not need a time, date or place of birth to get very clear and specific answers to questions of all sorts. On this blog, I get most of the questions that have to do with love, career, money and so on. But the range of questions we can answer is far greater. A few examples that immediately come to mind are asking when a certain type of stock or commodity will go up so we know when to sell, general celebrity gossip (“Is Mr. Hollywood cheating on Mrs. Hollywood?”), determining paternity, finding your lost stuff and almost anything else you can think of. To get back to your question, the horoscope for your question is below:
You are represented by Jupiter, Lord of the first house of self. Jupiter is not terribly fabulous. It is in Scorpio, where it doesn’t have a lot of strength, and it is in the 12th house of self undoing. My long-term readers will note that the 12th house usually shows a person to be their own worst enemy in a situation, and is often indicated when someone is ill or depressed or otherwise in a swamp of their own device. The 12th house does not have anything to do with spirituality, as some astrologers claim. Either that or many of the people who write into this column are actually highly advanced spiritual gurus and I just never picked up on it. In Scorpio, Jupiter is in the fall of the Moon and the detriment of Venus. We see that you are unhappy with your emotional state as well as your “I am Woman” instincts and general attractiveness.
Part of the problem is that you’re not feeling really good about yourself as a woman right now, whether this is physical or more profound and that you’re not feeling your needs are satisfied. We notice that Venus is in the sign of its fall and it is also on the midheaven, so we see that your physical needs are primarily what is on your mind. Seemingly, everything is good. Your partner, represented by Mercury in Libra is very interested in you, Venus. More accurately, he likes you because he wants to have a partner and he is physically attracted to you. Since Venus is in the sign of Mercury, Virgo, we see the relationship is at least superficially working out. The problem is that Venus is not in Gemini, the seventh house of the partner, but rather we see that you are with him because you don’t feel too good about yourself. This is why you’re experiencing this tension.
Does this mean you should leave? I do not think this would necessarily solve your problems. The man seems rather interested in you; the Sun has just moved into Libra, showing that he has become very interested in you physically. Mercury is in the middle of Libra, so his feelings about you are not about to change. Mercury in Libra as such is fine, you could do a lot worse than this guy. I think your main challenge is to get to a point where you feel good about yourself and about your life. This is something that you can accomplish in or out of this relationship, so I do not think it makes much difference where you stay or leave; that will have to be determined by the practicalities of the situation and whether you think you can raise two kids on your own.
I do notice that the Moon is about to conjoin Mercury, which is really the only impending movement in the situation. So we can see that you will shortly invest more of your emotions in the relationship. I think the better course of action is to work on yourself first, and critique what is going on with you and your life. The best advice I can give is to work from the inside out. If you change yourself, only then can you go and change the rest of your world. This is often very painful, but nobody can do it for you and it won’t fix itself. My sense is that if you do this properly, the relationship may well come to a close all of its own accord. This is because the fixed star Antares is on the ascendant. Antares is a Royal star that shows endings, and we may well see a natural ending to this relationship as you figure out what to do with yourself.
— To all readers — you may contact me, Nina Gryphon, for private consultations at nina@gryphonastrology.com.
Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Career, Love and Marriage, Oh My!
October 30, 2006 by admin
Question:
I would like to know about my love life in the future, mainly if I will marry and be happy, also if my ex-boyfriend will come back to me, or if the current man I am with is the one (I am 20 years old, by the way)? I want to explore near and far future, if that is possible. I would also like to know about my career path, what is going to happen with my career, what will I be, and how will I get started?
—T.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear T.,
Perhaps because I tend to be overly descriptive myself, I am in awe at the way in which you put so many important issues in such a short space. This would be an excellent place in which to let my readers know that if they want more specific information in their answers, they will need to include more specifics. That said, it’s amazing just how much blood we can squeeze from a stone, or rather how much information we can squeeze from such a short question. Typically, answers of as major import as you mention are best reserved for in-depth natal readings, which I also do off the blog for a fee. However, because this advice column is about horary astrology, I am sure that the readers will appreciate the way in which we can get to the important issues even without delving into the deep recesses of a person’s horoscope.
As always in this column, I used horary astrology to analyze your question. This is a very ancient method which uses the moment of the question to find an answer in the horoscope cast for the question. If you think about it, everything in the universe has a birth chart, no matter how great or small. Your question has a chart as well, and inside it is the answer. The horary chart for your question is below:
You gave multiple questions; this is fine, and I will take your questions in the order in which you have given them. In this horoscope, you are shown by Venus. Venus is not doing terribly well in this horoscope, or it should say it thinks it’s doing okay, but it really isn’t. Venus is in Virgo, which is the sign of its fall — Venus is also in its triplicity. So we have this interesting ambiguity, were planet is doing okay (triplicity), but the overall picture is relatively bleak (Venus is in fall). Venus is also in the 12th house, which it rules, because 12th house is the house of self undoing. Venus is a seductive planet, showing that we all have a tendency to very easily slip into self undoing and bad habits. So this gives us a picture as to what is going on with you, you’re probably not making very good decisions right now, but you feel pretty good about that. In other words, you are happily self undoing.
Marriage is definitely possible for you; since you’re 20 years old, the odds are going to be heavily tilted toward your marrying at least once during your lifetime. I don’t see any afflictions to the seventh house or its ruler that would be total deal breakers, so I can only assume that you will marry. The fact that Mars, the Lord of the seventh house, the house of partners, is in the first house itself, shows us that you’ll probably marry pretty easily, and the guide will come to you of his own accord. The Moon is also applying to Venus in Virgo, which is an overall good indication for marriage. I am not too thrilled to see this happening in the 12th house and also in Virgo, which is a barren sign, but I think this will speak more to the quality of the marriage.
Even if we look at the part of marriage, which is a point calculated using the degree of the ascendant, the ascendant, and the position of Venus, we see that it is at 18° Aries in the seventh house, and the picture is not terribly positive. Its ruler is Mars in Libra in the first house. The fact that Mars is angular and in your own house shows that you will get married, likely within a few years and easily. However, I am not sure that the marriage will be of very good quality. Would you want your marriage to be symbolized by the God of war in the sign of his detriment? I should think not. Most likely, you’ll marry quickly, but the relationship will be far better at the beginning than later on. Depending on your cultural and religious views, this may mean that you will divorce.
I also wanted to know if your boyfriend will come back. I think there will be an opportunity for him to come back, but I don’t think anything will come of it. The Moon will translate light between Venus and the Sun, with the Sun being his male libido aspect, so there is some sense of mutual physical attraction here, but when the Moon conjoins the Sun, we are going to get a solar eclipse. This does not bode well for the relationship. So I do not think you’ll come back, but I do not think you have a whole lot to regret, given that his planet, the Sun is not in very good shape here. Yes, it will move into Libra, where it loves Venus (you!) soon, but there are no upcoming aspects to confirm your getting together.
I think your current guy is a better bet, if he is Mercury in Libra in the first house, as I suspect. You like him, he likes you (note the mutual reception by sign), and he seems much more desirable than the ex boyfriend. The Sun is just not doing too well, given that it’s about to be eclipsed. I’d rather have a Mercury in Libra, even though it doesn’t have a whole lot of dignity, but it’s just doing so much better than the Sun. Does this mean that your current boyfriend is Mr. Soulmate, who will love you forever and ever? Maybe. You could do a lot worse.
You also asked about your career, and wanted to know what you will be when you grow up. Whenever people ask about careers in horary questions, I always request that they give me a few options. There are just way too many jobs out there in the world, so we have to narrow it down. If your career is shown by the Moon in Virgo about to conjoin Venus (because Moon rules your 10th house of career), we have a few interesting possibilities. The 12th house is normally malefic, so this could just show that your career will not be a good one all have to do with the self undoing professions, which I will be if your imagination. However, the 12th house also rules prisons and large animals. So you could work as a corrections person, but given that your career is shown by the Moon, you’d be more likely to be a counselor in some institution of that sort. You might also work with animals, such as a vet or something. The fact that the Moon is with Venus, and in a Mercury sign gives us a sense that there is some analytical work as well as aesthetic work involved here. One possibility is that you are destined to be a designer of horse dress for racehorses. Obviously, I’m only joking, but if we do not have options to choose from, we have to use our imagination, and mine is extremely fertile.
—- Readers of this column can contact me, Nina Gryphon, for private consultations at nina@gryphonastrology.com.
Free Astrology Advice – Horary Astrology: Will I Marry, When, and Whom?
October 18, 2006 by admin
Question:
My question is simple; when will I get married and what will my husband be like?
—A.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear A.,
Perhaps the leading advantage of horary astrology is that we need so little background to give an accurate judgment. Most of my readers write to me with a fair amount of background information. But, we can just as easily make a prediction given little more than the question itself. One does not need a lot of background to answer “when will I die?” Similarly, we need little background to answer when one will marry. It helps to know the person’s age to see whether the odds are strongly for or against them marrying. Since most of the people who write to me or under 35 and definitely under 40, I will assume that you, A., are no older than that.
As always, I have set a horary chart for the time and place I understood your question. The horary method works on the premise that the answer to your question is contained in the horoscope for the moment your question was understood by the astrologer. Artery astrology is excellent at answering specific questions, such as those you see here on this blog. Questions that are more general, such as finding the right career, or knowing more about your relationship needs, as well as prediction over long span of time, are better suited to natal consultations. The horary chart for your question is below:
You are shown by the ruler of the first house, Mercury, shows your personality and your mental approach to the whole situation. The Moon shows your emotions, while Venus shows your biological urge to find a mate, or to marry.
Marrying is the primary urge on your mind, as we see that Venus is just outside the first house. However, Venus is in its fall and in detriment of Jupiter, Lord of the seventh house of partners. This makes me think that while your biological clock is ticking, you are not thrilled with having to do with an actual flesh and blood male to marry. The fact that the Moon is also in Virgo, underscores this, and makes we wonder if you’ve recently had some kind of heartbreak that turns you off of men for a while. And the fact that Venus has recently sextiled Jupiter, Lord of the seventh house of partners, with really bad mutual reception, again makes me think you just underwent a nasty breakup.
Even more problematically, the further difficulty here is that both the Moon and Venus are very interested in Mercury, which is you. I have yet to see anyone find a spouse or significant other where the significators are primarily interested in themselves. You have to be willing to get out there, take a risk, and focus on the other person.
Now, your horoscope does not seem predisposed against marriage, but you’re definitely not in a place right now where marriage seems likely in the near future. The Moon will sextile Jupiter in about 10°, which can indicate a potential time of marriage. However, I am skeptical about this, because both the Moon and Jupiter are in cadent houses, from where they cannot easily act. Moreover, they are in very bad mutual reception, showing that you and the potential partner actively dislike each other. Does this mean you will eventually marry your ex-sweetheart? Perhaps, but I would strongly advise against it. If this aspect he does indeed bring marriage, which I doubt, we are looking at a few years before you get married. Because Jupiter is cadent and in a fixed sign, we would look toward a longer timeframe. Months seems a little short, while years seem a little long. Depending on your age, however, 10 years with a little smidgen added because the Moon is in a double sign, may do it.
More likely, however, the horoscope is saying that for the foreseeable future, you will be no condition to marry because of your past experiences. I would highly recommend that you take some time out to heal yourself and reconsider your whole approach to marriage. I’m a firm believer that you get back what you give, and if all you have right now is the propensity to lick your wounds, the men are unlikely to come running. Any relationship resulting from this would likely not be very auspicious.
—To all readers: If you wish to schedule a private consultation with Nina Gryphon, you may contact her at nina@gryphonastrology.com.
Free Astrology Advice – Horary Astrology: Will I Marry and When?
October 11, 2006 by admin
Question:
I am like many millions who would like to know when I am going to be married. I have met so many men and I am ready to settle down but things don’t work out. Right now I am so frustrated and just don’t know what to do anymore. I have been patient and my biological clock seems to be ticking even louder now. I am going to be 38 years old, and embarking on my second advanced degree. The problem is that in this area, most of the guys are not on the same academic level as I am. I think that is very important especially where communication is concerned. So I end up looking for guys through the Internet. Well, so far I have come close to five guys who were ready to settle down, believe it or not, at the last minute they all changed their minds. When I ask why, apparently they don’t know or they leave me hanging and after a few months come calling; of course I am not interested any more. I feel my life is at a standstill…nothing seems to be prospering, neither career or marriage.
I feel so rejected, I mean there is ample time for them to pull out but when emotions are all involved I get so frustrated. I ask myself what am I doing wrong? I know for sure it’s not me. But again, I never fail to wonder.
—B.
Nina Gryphon:
Thank you for writing to me, B., with your problem which is indeed very common. So many of my clients want to know when they’re going to get married or, if they come from Western cultures, where the open desire for marriage is not considered politically correct, when they will find a long-term relationship. But of course it translates to the same thing.
I set the chart for the moment I understood your question, a technique known as horary astrology, in which the answer to a question is encompassed in the horoscope for the question itself. The horary chart for your question is below:
In his horoscope, you are shown by Saturn in Leo in its detriment in the eighth house. The eighth house is the house of fear, and very often when we see the person’s significator there, we can see that they are afraid of whatever is going on in their situation. We see here that you are indeed very afraid of never marrying. Saturn in detriment is not an appealing planet; and here may lie one clue as to why you have found it difficult to find someone to marry. Your fear and desperation scare the men off — they may not know how exactly to verbalize it, but it is likely the deal breaker.
Your other significator in this horoscope is Venus, which shows your urge to find a mate; this is not just sexual, but more your interest in finding a husband in order to have a man. There is not a lot of rationality to this part of ourselves. It is more our genetic and cultural programming. Venus is in Virgo, in its fall, also in the eighth house. It tells a very similar story to Saturn, and shows that your fear and anguish are present on multiple levels in your life. Therefore, the first practical step I would suggest is to do a little spiritual cleansing before trying to find a man. At the end of this article, I will give you some suggestions on how to proceed.
Now, let us take a look at the overall flavor of the horoscope to see whether you will get married at all. People often skip over the important question of whether they will find a husband, and immediately ask when they will find him. First, we need to look at the practical terrain of the situation. That is to say, are you, at the age of 38, likely to get married? I would say so, though your odds are not as good as someone in their early 20s, but you’re still young and may well marry twice, if the chart should suggest it.
Based on my assessment of the chart as a whole, I would say your odds are decent, though not amazing. Both the Moon and Saturn are in a barren sign, which in a question about marriage suggests the lack of marriage. Venus, too, is in a barren sign, adding to that testimony. However, these are not insurmountable problems, so if you start with assuming 70-30 odds for marriage, we’re looking at maybe a 40-50% chance of ever getting married. That’s not bad.
Then it remains to be seen when you will make the mutual decision to marry. The best bet for marriage in this horoscope is the Moon applying to Saturn in less than 3 degrees. If we follow the timing rules strictly, this would give us less than three months. However, I would suggest it means three years, given the context of your situation. The Moon represents the potential husband, because the rules the seventh house of partners. In Leo, the Moon is very interested in the Sun, which is the ruler of Leo.
The Sun represents his urge to find a mate, the male version of the Venus principle I discussed above. So his mind is going to follow his biological urge. This works in your favor, because his mind is going to be on marriage as much as yours. So how is the Sun? Can it actually deliver marriage? In Virgo, it is not very strong, and it has recently conjoined the malefic South node. So, right now, whoever this is is not very ready to marry anyone.
The good news, however, is that the Sun is about to move into Libra. In Libra, the Sun is in the sign of Venus, and exalts Saturn, so this person will be very ready to marry after some period of time. We noticed that it will move into Libra in about 4 degrees, while the aspect between the Moon and Saturn gives 3 degrees. So this gives us a range in which we can expect marriage: three to four somethings. I’m inclined to think this is more years rather than months. I believe it will be closer to four years rather than three, because the Sun is in a double sign, which always prolongs things just a little bit.
— For a private consultation, e-mail me at nina@gryphonastrology.com.
Spiritual Work
Spiritual cleansing is the first step to achieving anything you want; if you imagine your life as an empty house that you want to redecorate to your own liking, it stands to reason you will want to clean the house first before attempting to move in the objects of your desire.
For someone who is working with a relatively long history of bad luck in love, I would strongly recommend a series of baths. You’re working with the spiritual equivalent of a house that has not been cleaned in a few years, to continue the above metaphor. You would want to use a 13 herb bath; 13 is the number that breaks bad luck, or rather turns bad luck to good. Also, I would start at just after the full Moon, and do a two week series of daily spiritual baths until the new Moon. Then I would stop for two weeks and repeat again just after the next full Moon. I would do the series a total of three times, lasting three months. If this seems like a lot, remember how long it took to accumulate all of this detritus on your psyche.
Spiritual bathing is not the same as regular bathing, and there’s no soap involved. Some people do like to use spiritual soaps, one popular brand in the United States is Florida water soap, or sometimes the green Chandrika soap, which is made with patchouli and sandalwood. Anyway, the 13 herb spiritual bath involves making a strong tea from a special 13 herb combination of herbs (which includes cleansing herbs like eucalyptus, and which I sell – e-mail me at nina@gryphonastrology.com). You can then add this tea to a regular warm bath, and immerse yourself, head and all, 13 times. Here, it is traditional to recite or read the appropriate Biblical psalm, very often Psalm 37 (“Fret not thyself against evildoers…”). However, any relevant and appropriate sacred text would do, depending on your religion. After you step out of the bath, you would let yourself air dry, to keep the beneficial influences of the bath on you. This may be a good time to turn up the heat in your house.
Free Astrology Advice – Horary Astrology: Is He My Soulmate?
October 9, 2006 by admin
Question:
I am married with 2 wonderful kids. All my life, I have always felt that my soulmate exists somewhere and that when I see him, I would know it immediately. Now, in my younger years, of course I’ve had infatuations and the like, however, now that I am in my 30′s, I feel I am more experienced and also know exactly the kind of person I would be happy with. The culture where I come from, we have introduced marriages, hence my current marriage is of that kind. I am happy except for the fact that I feel I have not met my soulmate. I have been married for 10 years and really till now, have not thought of looking at other men in general. I don’t do that normally.
Fast Forward to November 2005, when I met a new man. From the very first day I met him, I felt a really strong connection. I met him in June 2005, I dismissed it as a silly crush. But in November of 2005, when I saw him, I felt an instant connection and against my better judgement, I decided to start talking to him. It’s been about 10 months now, and really, my appreciation for the kind of person he is, does not show any signs of waning. He was really interested in talking to me in the beginning and when I showed mutual interest, he backed off a bit. But then I started keeping in more frequent touch, at times, I do feel that I make more of an effort, but he really has not asked me to stop. In July of this year, I decided I will stop talking to him as he was really distracting me and I felt, why, when I have a complete family and everything is going well, should I bother? We meet once a week, (it’s always a very platonic meeting, except for one time, where it almost came to an intimate moment, but we just hugged and that’s it). I am very confused about what is going on.
My question to you, on an astrological basis, is whether this guy is my soulmate? Have I really found my soulmate? Or is this is all an illusion?
I am not looking to indulge in a frivolous time pass thing, rather in quest for my true love and soulmate. We have one life to live and in this life time nothing would fulfill me, if I found that one person who is supposed to be my soulmate.
—H.
Nina Gryphon:
Thanks for writing to me, H. I’m always interested in looking at the horoscopes for the questions that people send to me, because they always show the situation as it truly is. Very frequently, people will omit crucial information in their e-mails to me, whether because they think it’s irrelevant, or because they think it’s none of my business. But the horoscope shows the truth, and we can see a whole new dimension to their question, or the real reason for their situation. For most people, this is something of a revelation and helps them move forward with their situation because it confirms something they already knew deep down.
I think this is the case with your situation, because your e-mail begs the question, if everything is so wonderful in your life, why are you seeking emotional fulfillment elsewhere? Your husband is notable mainly by his absence from your question. We will see whether we can identify him in the chart and see the nature of the relationship between the two of you, which might help address the situation at its root.
As always, I cast the horoscope for the time of the question, a technique known as horary astrology. This technique is very ancient and highly specific and accurate. It works extremely well for situational analysis and prediction; just like in your situation. The horary chart is below:
In this horoscope, we first notice the very early degrees on the ascendant. This often shows that the situation is still in its very early stages. However, the chart shows very accurately the way things look at the time of your question, and the way they appear to be headed.
In his horoscope, you are shown by Jupiter, which is in Scorpio, and therefore in the sign of Mars. The man you mention is shown by Mercury in Libra, separating from the conjunction with Mars in its detriment. This makes me strongly suspect that there is another person involved, specifically someone like a wife or girlfriend to the man. Because Jupiter is in the sign of Mars, this shows you been under that person’s control; that is to say, as long as she is on the scene, whether you know it or not, you cannot fully act. It shows the politics of the situation, as it were.
Mercury and Mars are both in Libra, where they are in the sign of Venus. Venus is your urge to find a mate, so it shows the level of your physical attraction to this man. Here, Venus is in Virgo in the seventh house, showing that you are very physically attracted to the man. He obviously feels similarly, because Mercury is in the sign of Venus, so he appreciates the attention, and the Venusian energy. Venus is in the detriment of Jupiter, and in the sign of its own fall. This is not uncommon in questions about love triangles, because it shows that your physical attraction is at odds with your head (Jupiter), and there is something “bad” about it, which is shown by Venus being in its fall.
Jupiter, for its part, feels the same; it does not like Venus, so you know on a mental level that your attraction is a problem. The moon shows your emotional side, and here it is in Cancer, its own sign. This shows your emotional enjoyment of the situation, and reveals a lot about what’s going on in your heart. The moon exalts Jupiter, so we can see that there is a strong force (your rational side, shown by Jupiter) holding you back from pursuing this relationship. You yourself have mentioned that you have kept it platonic for an extended period of time. At the same time, the moon is in the detriment of Saturn, so you really dislike whatever Saturn represents. We also notice that Mercury and Mars are in the exaltation of Saturn. Meanwhile, Jupiter and Venus are not interested in Saturn at all. In short, we can be pretty certain that Saturn is your husband.
How is Saturn? Not great. Saturn is in its detriment in the malefic sixth house; this does not have the makings of a satisfying relationship. What makes it more problematic, is that Saturn is not terribly interested in Jupiter, Venus, or the Moon. We simply do not see much of a bond between the spouses here. On the mental and physical levels you are handling this reasonably well, but your Moon, being so unhappy with Saturn, shows the lack of emotional fulfillment in the marriage.
What is the Sun, that so influences Saturn? The Sun shows the other man’s physical needs; your marriage is not helped by the sexual energies between you and the other man. The Sun is in Virgo, where it is in the sign of Mercury, the fall of Venus, and the detriment of Jupiter. The other man does not seem hugely attracted to you, at least on the physical level. I think this is why you feel like you have to put more effort into continuing the relationship. For him, the spark just isn’t there, and it is very difficult to have a relationship with a man who is not at least somewhat sexually attracted to you. I notice that the Sun will shortly move from Virgo into Libra, where it will be in Venus’s sign. This shows that if you choose to continue the relationship, a greater degree of sexual attraction will develop mutually. Of course, that will entail its own decision on your part. Do you want to take it to those levels?
Do I think this man is your soulmate? I am not so sure, simply because there are so many entanglements in both of your lives with other people, it strikes me more that this is a way for you to escape the emotional dissatisfaction in your marriage. It does not mean that the two of you cannot live happily ever after, but the big concern for me is that neither Mercury nor the Sun, his two planets, are terribly interested in the moon, your emotions. I am not sure that you would be so emotionally fulfilled in relationship to this man either. The last thing you want to do is to jump from one relationship to another, at great personal cost, only to find it’s really the same thing in different clothing.
—To schedule a private consultation with Nina Gryphon, you can email her at nina@gryphonastrology.com.
Free Astrology Advice – Horary Astrology: Will I Marry and When?
October 3, 2006 by admin
Question:
I have been looking to get married for the last eight years but my issues have been to find the right guy. When I felt I found him, he disappeared. Please help me and tell me about when I will get married, and the quality of the marriage.
—H.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear H.,
As you may well imagine, I get a number of questions asking “when will I get married?” However, people sometimes forget that we need to see in the chart whether they will get married at all, so that is the question will need to address first of all. First, of course, we have to take common sense into account; since you’re about 30 years old, the odds are quite favorable that you will marry. So unless the chart shows very clearly you will never marry, the playing field is tilted toward you, as it were.
I cast a horoscope for the time I understood your question, and will analyze your question using horary astrology, an ancient astrological technique whereby we can find the answer in the chart for the time the question was asked. Incidentally, this was the preferred method of consulting astrologers throughout at least the last 2500 years. Most likely, this is because the expense of doing a complete natal workup was too high for most people (no computers!), and also because many people did not know their birth times, and perhaps not even their exact birth dates.
To see whether you will marry, we would look for particularly unfavorable testimony. It would take a lot of negative indications for us to determine the you will never get married; and indeed, there is nothing in this chart that severely afflicts your odds. We don’t see major afflictions by the Sun (which destroys by the excess of heat), or by Saturn (which destroys by the excess of cold), so we can assume that you will someday get married.
That said, I also do not see an immediate testimony of marriage. I do see that you’re heartbroken, however, and are trying to recover from a past disappointment. Needless to say, this is hardly a state in which one is highly appealing to potential marriage partners. When we look at your emotional state, symbolized by the Moon in Gemini, we see it has just separated from a square to the Sun in Virgo. Since the Sun is the natural ruler of men, we can see that there was some kind of tension (square aspect) between you and a suitor. Both the Moon and the Sun are in barren signs, Gemini and Virgo, which is one testimony that this relationship did not lead to marriage. Both the Moon and the Sun are in signs ruled by Mercury, which symbolizes you as a person in his horoscope, so you controlled this relationship. Unfortunately, Mercury is in Libra, where it is in the fall of the Sun. Very recently, Mercury moved into Libra from Virgo; you were quite happy with this relationship when it was happening, but you were also heavily into yourself and your own needs (Mercury was in its own sign), which may have led to the end of the relationship. Currently, as Mercury is in the fall of the Sun, you are obviously quite disappointed and upset with the man who refused to marry you.
You are also symbolized by Venus, which is your urge to find a mate. Venus is in its fall in Virgo, and therefore you are obviously currently in no state to find a husband. As a whole, we can see very clearly in the chart that you’re still licking your wounds from the previous disappointment. Therefore, there is no marriage in the immediate future. This does not mean, of course, that you will not get married; I am sure that you will. However, it looks as though it will take you about eight months from the time of the question (in mid-September) to get your bearings back, and only then I would start thinking about pursuing marriage. I would, if I were you, re-examine the question astrologically then.
You will notice that Venus is about to sextile Jupiter in about 5 degrees. Jupiter rules the seventh house, showing your potential husband. Normally, a contact between your planet and that of the husband, might indicate marriage, and show its timing. The difficulty here is that Venus and Jupiter are in a very bad mutual reception; Venus is in the detriment of Jupiter, while Jupiter is in the detriment of Venus. So there will be an opportunity for marriage in about five months, but nothing will come of it, as neither of you is in a place in your lives to get married.
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