June 25, 2007 by admin
Is now the right time to conceive? I have been with my husband for ten years (four years married). We are very compatible and feel now may be the right time. We’re both 28. I am finishing up college in December. I am torn between jumping head first into a career, buying a home or having a child! He says that now is right but has been against it until now, which doesn’t seem fair to me.
In this horoscope, you are represented by Jupiter, ruler of the first house of self, and also by the Moon. We will also need to take a look at your fifth house of fertility, which is ruled by Venus. We see that your and your husband’s biological clocks have been a major topic of contention recently; the Moon has just opposed Mars, which would indicate disagreements regarding your husband’s desire for children. Mars rules your husband’s fertility, as it rules his fifth house of kids.
I suspect that finances have a lot to do with your reservations about having children right now. We see that the fifth house ruler, Venus, is about to conjoin Saturn in barren Leo, and Saturn rules the second house of money. How is your money? With Saturn in detriment, not so great. So there is a strong argument for you going out and getting a job before committing to kids. We also see that Mars afflict the fifth house, and this is not just about Mars representing your husband’s fertility. Mars also rules your fourth house of home and real estate. So you recently realized your house is no longer satisfactory, which is another pressure on you. Again, if you’re going to have kids, it would make sense to have your new house set up first.
Given these two afflictions from Saturn (money) and Mars (housing and pressure from husband’s bio clock), I think your instincts are correct, and you should get your financial and housing situations straightened out before deciding to have kids.
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May 25, 2007 by admin
My husband and I have two wonderful children. We are both 40. We both want another child but it doesn’t seem to be happening for us. We have had all testing done and the doctors can’t give us any reason as to why we are not getting pregnant. We did get pregnant 6 years ago; but sadly miscarried at 9 weeks. We are both in good health with the exception of myself having high cholesterol, which I do have under control with diet and exercise.
I get many letters similar to yours; I never knew there were so many women in this world longing for a child. I really wish it were possible for every woman who wants a child to conceive. I cast a horoscope for your horary question, which is below:
Since you are about 40, we will need to find an aspect between the planet showing you and the planet showing the baby. If the same question was asked by someone in their 20s, general indications of fertility in the horoscope would be sufficient. But as the odds drop over time, we need stronger and stronger evidence to show conception.
You are represented by the Moon, ruler of the first house of self, and the baby/your fertility potential is indicated by ruler of the fifth house of children. Your husband is represented by her seventh house of partners, and its ruler, Saturn, and his ability to conceive is indicated by Venus, ruler of his fifth house. We will look at the condition of all these planets, which will help us determine just how fertile the two of you are, and potentially, where the obstacles to fertility may lie.
The Moon is in Virgo, which is a barren sign, and afflicts your fifth house of fertility by a sextile aspect. This is not an auspicious start, but it can still be overcome by other positive evidence. The significator of the potential baby is Mars in Aries, which is a neutrally fertile sign. Mars is in the ninth house, where it is cadent and therefore difficult to express its energy.
Your husband’s significator, Saturn, is in a barren sign, Leo. Saturn also afflicts your fifth house, your fertility, by a square aspect. His fifth house is ruled by Venus in the fertile sign of Cancer, which is very positive. However, I am concerned that this testimony alone is not enough to promise a child. This fertile Venus applies to trine your house of fertility, which is a positive factor, but it is tucked away in the 12th house, and so does not have the oomph needed to manifest.
We do not see an applying aspect between the Moon and Mars, which, combined with the testimonies for infertility, does not promise a child. We do see an applying aspect between the Moon and Mercury. Mercury can signify doctors, so you may well make another trip to the physician either for testing or for fertility treatment. I do wish you much luck.
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January 23, 2007 by admin
When will we conceive? My husband and I are currently trying for a baby. We got married last August and started trying at the end of September. We are both in our late 20s and everything is very good in the relationship at the moment. The negative tests I’ve gotten for the last two-three months are becoming a bit depressing. I was wondering if you can offer any advice as to how long it looks like it might take us to get pregnant. I’m very positive every month as we have no reasons to worry, but also have an impatient streak!
It’s interesting getting such a range of fertility questions as I do; ultimately, they’re all the same, because they ask the same question. However, the people asking the question couldn’t be more different. This, of course, results in charts that are very different — some practically shout yes, while others are quite discouraging. The horoscope always reflects the situation, and once you have done this for a while, you can see the overall tenor of a chart almost at first glance. The horoscope for your horary question is below:
The first order of business, as ever, is to check whether you can conceive at all. Many people assume they can, but they don’t really know. Out of our four significators of fertility (yours, his, and each of your houses of fertility), three planets are in neutral signs and one is in a barren sign. Given your age, this is pretty encouraging, though it’s not as strong as if several of the planets in question had been in fertile signs, for example. But you already knew that, since if you were positively brimming over with fertility, you wouldn’t be writing to me today.
There are a few idiosyncratic features of your chart that are worth noting. One, we see that your significator, Jupiter, is extremely strong. Even though it is in a neutrally fertile sign, its very strength will ensure that you can conceive. Jupiter is in its own sign of Sagittarius, and it is just outside of the 10th house, a dominant position in the horoscope.
Two, we see that the baby, shown by the ruler of the fifth house, the Moon, is in the first house, where it has lots of power to act. Finally, we see that Mars its exaltation in Capricorn is on your husband’s fifth house of fertility (the radical 11th house). Normally, I do not like to see malefics in the houses of fertility, but seeing that this one is exalted, it is less of an affliction and might give us a hint as to what is going on. It could be that your husband is not quite as fertile as he may seem, though he is still plenty fertile. The exaltation causes you to have higher expectations than warranted, in other words.
Since you have established that you will eventually get pregnant, we can push the Moon forward through so-called prohibiting aspects (namely, the upcoming square to Mars), until the Moon aspects Jupiter. It doesn’t take very much, since Jupiter is the next planet after Mars to get aspected by the Moon. This is another good sign, and this is what I mean by saying that some charts just have a much nicer tenor than others. The Moon will trine Jupiter in about 9°, which I would interpret as weeks, though if you try hard enough, perhaps you can reduce it to days!
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January 18, 2007 by admin
When will I get pregnant? My husband and I are both 28 years old. My husband works away 2 weeks and then he is home 2 weeks. I am 60 lbs overweight and am trying to get the weight off by eating right and exercising. I am slow at this and am working up to cardio exercising. We are asking for a child because we have been married for 4 1/2 years and have been trying since February 2006. I was on birth control and now I am not ovulating, according to the doctors. We have been actively trying for 11 months and we are having fun, but it is getting frustrating. I have not been having a regular period, either, a direct result of not ovulating.
I certainly can sympathize with your situation; I never realized just how many women so badly want children until I started writing this column. I don’t think a day goes by that I don’t get an e-mail from a woman who wants a child but is having trouble conceiving. The good news for you, of course, is that you are young, as is your husband, so your odds are substantially higher than they would be otherwise.
In any question about pregnancy, we must first determine whether a person will conceive, and only then can we get to the timing. I cast a horary chart for the time and understood your question. The drawing of the horary is below:
We notice that the rulers of your and your husband’s houses (the first and the seventh, ruled by Mars and Venus) are both in neutrally fertile signs, Capricorn and Aquarius, which for people your age is okay. We also have to look at the fifth house of children for each of you, and we see that the ruler of your fifth house is the Sun in Capricorn, another neutral sign. Your husband’s fifth house is ruled by Saturn which is in Leo, a barren sign. I am concerned about this, because that nasty Saturn falls right in your fifth house of fertility. Moreover, Saturn also aspects your ascendant, further indicating that his lack of fertility may be harming you. There could be a possibility that your husband is not as fertile as you may think. Fortunately, you can have him tested.
I also do not love the fact that the Moon is in its detriment in Capricorn, though Capricorn is neutral in terms of fertility. The Moon squares the ascendant, again showing that your fertility difficulties are harming you. Finally, we see Mercury in your husband’s fifth house, peregrine, afflicting your fifth house cusp. Mercury rules your second house of food, as well as your sixth house of illness, showing that one or both of these could be afflicting your fertility. Of course Mercury rules houses in your husband’s chart as well, specifically the 12th house of self undoing; to the extent your husband has negative personal habits, such as smoking, this may exacerbate the problem.
So the first order of business would be to get your and your husband’s health checked out, and also eliminate any counterproductive habits or behavior. It is great that you are working on weight loss, since I am sure that alone will help you quite a bit in increasing your fertility.
One ray of light here is that the Moon will conjoin the Sun in 5°, in the 10th house. Since the fifth house rules the baby and the Moon rules you, this shows one possibility of the two of you conceiving. The 5° most likely show five weeks or five months, so you may want to wait to see if you conceive at that time. Given the other difficulties in the chart, the conception is not exactly a slam dunk, but you also may not want to run to the doctor until you have tried a little bit longer.
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September 20, 2006 by admin
I am in my late thirties, and not in the best of health. In and before my three years of marriage, I have had eight surgeries, several on my reproductive system. My husband has been tested for fertility, and has been found to be quite fertile. Will we be able to conceive naturally or will we need to do fertility treatments to achieve a pregnancy? Will I be able to carry a baby to term after the treatments for my illness end? Are the treatments and also the fertility treatments dangerous for me? The drugs they are giving me have AWFUL side effects and I’m scared. Is adoption a more reasonable approach (for us) to parenthood, and should we put more emphasis on this approach to familyhood?
A number of my clients are concerned about fertility – as more and more women postpone childbearing for economic reasons, the likelihood of conception also drops. Fertility treatments are very expensive, so many of my clients contact me to figure out their odds before spending tens of thousands of dollars on medical intervention. Adoption is expensive too, so for many people, the choice comes down to the financial dilemma of additional fertility treatments or an adoption application. As with all health-related questions, this is a good place to mention I am not a doctor, and you should always listen to what your doctor says first and foremost, etc.
Now let us take a look at your question, and see what is going on with your fertility potential.
First, we want to get a general sense of your and your husband’s overall fertility. You are shown by Mercury (Lord 1), in Virgo. Mercury is strong in Virgo, which is good, but Virgo is one of the non-fertile signs. The baby is shown by Lord 5, Saturn, in Leo, another non-fertile sign. This is not auspicious, but other testimonies can override it, so let us not despair yet. Your husband is shown by Lord 7, Jupiter in Scorpio, which is a fertile sign. As you mentioned, he is rather fertile. His fertility, Lord 11 (turned 5th house of fertility) is the Moon in Aries, which is a neutral sign. Mercury (you) has recently separated from the malefic South Node, showing that you have lately had health problems. Since this is shown to be in the past, the hope is that your health will improve from here on out. Note that the South Node is right on the Ascendant, showing its harmful effect on your health.
So the overall picture shows that there is some potential for fertility, but the situation is hardly optimal, due to your ill health. You mentioned that the medications are causing you serious side effects; indeed, in addition to your husband’s fertility, the Moon is the treatment. The Moon is in Aries, the fall of Saturn, so it harms whatever Saturn represents. Since Saturn rules the 5th house, it is the baby. Also, the Moon squares the 5th house cusp, further harming your fertility. Yes, the medications may well be harming your potential to conceive. The good news is that the Moon will soon move out of Aries, and will thus stop harming Saturn and the 5th house. Either your medications will finish and thus will not harm you any longer, or they will stop harming your fertlity for other reasons.
The next step is to see whether the opportunity for conception will arise. There is no applying aspect between Mercury (Lord 1, or you) and Saturn (Lord 5, the baby), so it does not look as though fertility treatments or natural means will lead to conception in the foreseeable future. Now, astrologers can be wrong, especially on something as finely balanced as fertility – if you had unlimited funds, I would say go out there, do all the fertility treatments you can and prove me wrong. But you did mention that a major concern for you is the lack of money, so you have to choose your course of action carefully. I do think adoption may be the higher-odds bet here. Some people like to do one more round of fertility treatments to satisfy their conscience and know they have done all they can in that regard. I wish you the very best of luck in creating the family you want.
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