I really appreciate your comment – it’s really mature and self-aware. Plus you used “Angelina Jolie” as a verb

It sounds like he is amusing himself by watching you get entangled in a web of your own making. Telling a Scorpio to stop obsessing is useless, but I guess we can make a token attempt.

Best wishes,
Nina

PS: Glad you like the blog. I try to make it fun for me and others.

We mean a lot to each other; he’s calling me quite frequently. And as we have different strengths we are really learning a lot from each other.

Philosophically I KNOW not every strong bond needs to be romantic/sexual…but for some reason I’m having trouble separating the energy I get from bonding with him from lust.

I’m sort of shocked that I can’t rise above my desire for him and handle this with greater maturity.

It would be so much easier if we were sleazy. No! The fact that he’s such a good-hearted person makes me ache for him more.

I personally have a hard time seeing him as taken…since I believe love is freeform…and well that aggression you sensed toward her … I’ve been secretly trying to “Angelina Jolie” him I admit.

I do use my energy, eccentricity, and intelligence to beguile him in our discussions … even influencing him to discuss the ideas of polyamory and how some relationships are just for a time and that people should move to bonds that are most stimulating for whatever phase of life they’re in.

This leads to great conversation….but of course, as a Scorpio, I’m consciously strategizing — it’s not just harmless talk — I’ve been trying to take him.

But he’s not completely innocent as he keeps asking me “Do you think you’ll ever marry” “Who are you dating?” …”What type of men do you like.” And if I mention an old love, he wants to know “Is he coming back?”

I mean… I play it cool…but I’m like um, is he looking for the next wife.

But being an Aqua I’m sure he’s just amusing himself and turning on the everpresent charm.

Well, let me stop this rambling ….

P.S. Great blog! Far from the typical, basic astro site.

Thanks for checking back. It sounds like a really difficult dilemma. From what you told me about your natal chart, you are obviously a very emotionally deep person, and this relationship means a lot to you.

I hope I am wrong, but he seems pretty stuck in his ways. The best I can offer is that he does not seem very emotionally attached to his wife, but people stay in marriages for other reasons, as you say. I hope that in the event this relationship does not work out, you will find someone even better who is 100% available to you.

Good luck.

Nina

Excellent question. I would normally look to Saturn as the third party in a menage a trois, but here the querent is Saturn. So, we must look for a planet that has a strong influence over the relationship, and also some connection to Lord 7, the man.

Mercury fits the bill perfectly. Two of the querent’s significators are in strong Mercury dignities, and Mercury is in Leo, the sign ruled by Lord 7. The wife is literally in the man’s house.

Best wishes,
Nina

Nina Buenos dias. Porque el regente de su esposa es Mercurio?

jaime

No, I did not put a curse on her! I know of her but never interact with her and would never wish her harm. I wish we both could have him, but I don’t like to share and I’m sure she doesn’t.

He’s very responsible and I thought it was a longshot for him to ever leave his wife. He keeps mentioning how his parents have been together for 50 years.

So painful for me! (as I did not seek to fall for him).

But anyway, I will accept my role in his life as a friend and what appears to be his mentor of sorts.

Thanks! I will keep you posted.

S.