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Horary Astrology Question:

I had a very sexually and emotionally intense relationship with a man about 15 years ago. We were together for about 2 years, and just before we broke up, I miscarried his baby (but he didn’t know I was pregnant, and I never told him I lost the baby). Shortly after that, the relationship ended abruptly with him breaking up with me because, in his words, “I don’t love you because I don’t know what love is.” And yet, I know he did. And my suspicion is that he broke up with me because he DID love me and was terrified by it.

But 15 years have passed, we haven’t spoken in about 10 years, and we live thousands of miles apart now, but I still feel this man “with” me all the time. And every once and a while, I hear from an old mutual friend who will, in the course of our conversation, tell me what’s going on this man’s life - and every time she does, I already know it.

Lately, I have been considering getting in touch with him to tell him about that long ago pregnancy in the hopes that finally telling him will help resolve the relationship for me, and perhaps for him as well. But, I’m also worried about opening that wound again, so to speak, and stirring up something that should just be left alone.

So, my basic question is should I contact him to tell him this or not?

—K.

Nina Gryphon:

Dear K.,

Thank you for writing to me. I think this is where horary is so helpful – we can understand what is going on with others. To me, this is even more valuable than knowing what the future will bring. I cast a horary chart for the time that I understood your question, and the horoscope is below:

The first question is whether this feeling is mutual, or whether it’s something going on only on your end. In his horoscope, you are represented by Mars in Taurus and by the Moon in Pisces. He is represented by Venus, ruler of your seventh house of partners, and by the Sun. I am afraid that your strong bond is one-sided, for a few reasons. First, we see that with Mars in Taurus, you are strongly interested in what is going on with him, and you still do love him. The problem is that Mars is conjunct the fixed star Algol, which can represent us losing our heads. So it’s as though your strong feelings for him are making you blind to the truth of the situation.

With the Moon in Pisces, we see that you are emotionally putting him on a pedestal, as the Moon is in the exaltation of Venus. So you are very much engaged with him on an emotional level as well. My concern is that neither of those planets, Venus and the Sun, reciprocate. Venus is currently in Virgo, where it is not interested in either Mars or the Moon, and the Sun is in Leo, which tells a similar story. So we see that at the moment, he is not thinking of you.  You had also asked about possibilities for the future, specifically if you were to contact him.

Venus is about to move into Leo, indicating some kind of a change of conditions for him. However, even in Leo, Venus is not very interested in Mars or the Moon, so I am not sure that contacting him would somehow reignite his heart. If anything, it may bring more pain into his life, and perhaps the kinder decision would be to leave the subject alone.

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