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Horary Question:

I am about to be proposed to by a wonderful man, who cares for me and who loves me very much. He does everything for me, and he is a perfect person. I care for him very much, and I can grow to love him. However, I am in love with someone else, someone I had dated previously. The person I am in love with has many influences that affect his behavior - when we are together, everything is perfect, when we are not, he questions his feelings (I am positive that his family members played a significant role in pulling us apart). Everything was going great for several years, but then for a few months, times were difficult for the both of us, misunderstandings happened, communication was bad, and he said he wanted to take a break. I don’t know what to do.

I believe that we are perfect for each other, and that we can work this out. Will this break be for good? I want to be with him, but if we will definitely not be together, then I will say yes to the man who is about to propose. If there is a chance that the person I love and I will be together, then I will not say yes. I don’t know what to do. Should I wait for the person who I am in love with, or should I say yes to the one who is about to propose?

—S.

Nina Gryphon:

Dear S.,

Why does true love have to be so complicated? If I ran the world, everyone would live happily ever after with their soulmate. But I don’t run things, so instead, I ran a horary chart for the time I understood your question. The horoscope for your question is below:

You are ruled by the ruler of the first house of self, Venus. We see that Venus is in the sign of the Moon, Cancer, and in the triplicity and detriment of Mars. Mars rules your seventh house of partners, and since you kind of like Mars, but overall you sort of dislike it, it must symbolize the guy who is about to propose to you. He is certainly marriage minded, and he has decided to pursue that with you. His significator, Mars, has just moved into the exaltation of the Sun. The Sun is one’s urge to find a mate; obviously, finding a wife is foremost on his mind. He is certainly ready to march up to the altar with you. Too bad you do not love him.

The Moon, which symbolizes your emotions, is in Gemini, where it is most interested in Mercury. Mercury must be the man with whom you’re in love. Mercury, at the moment, is most interested in himself. It is in its own sign and triplicity, so I am concerned that he is not nearly as interested in you as you are in him. Still, the Moon and Mercury are applying to conjunction, indicating an upcoming opportunity to renew the relationship. The problem is that even renewed, it’s not going to have a lot of lasting power, since he is not that deeply interested in you. But I think you will need to experience that for yourself.

So what to do? Marrying one guy while pining over another will leave you forever wondering how it would have been had you not done so. I suggest putting the potential husband on the back burner, at least ask him to wait, and let the situation with your true love play itself out. Give yourself a hard time limit, say six months, and stick to it. If Mr. Right doesn’t come back during that time, you will need to move on.

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