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Horary Question:

H and I have been seeing each other for 4 months. We met while he was doing construction on the company I work for. We had a connection from the start. We went out one night and he told me that he was not the type of person to cheat on his wife. (he’s been married for a year and they dated for 6 years prior). He said that there was something about me, though. Two weeks later he tells me he’s fallen in love with me. He’s a very kind, loyal, loving man. He’s everything I could ever want.

His wife has problems carrying children, she’s had 2 miscarriages in a previous marriage at 5 months and 8 months. He’s unsure if she can have them. He really wants children. He is 33 and she is 39. I am 29. I am one hundred percent in love with him.

According to him, his wife is good to him. He says he loves his wife, but that she is not me. That I am special. He tells me I am in his future, but if he were to leave right now he would have nothing to offer me. all finances are in her name, all property in her name. I told him I don’t care about money, but he says that he wants to be able to provide. So my question is, will he leave her for me if I am patient? Our connnection is so real, it’s amazing. I can’t imagine anything more amazing than this feeling in life. He says he’s never felt this way, even with his wife, although, he says he does love her…he wouldn’t have married her if he didn’t.

—M.

Nina Gryphon:

Dear M.,

Thanks for writing to me. These situations are never easy or simple, are they? As always, I cast a horoscope for the time that I understood your question, a method known as horary astrology. The horary horoscope for your question is below:

In this chart, you are shown by Venus, ruler of the first house of self. Your feelings in the situation are represented by the Moon. H. is symbolized by Mars, ruler of your seventh house of partners, and his sexual side is shown by the Sun.

We see that H. is very much interested in you, both sexually and rationally, as Mars is in the exaltation of Venus and the Sun is in the sign of Venus. I do think he is sincere when he tells you he is in love with you. Of course, people don’t necessarily leave their marriages just because they love the other person more; there are very often other elements in play, such as the financial obligations you mentioned.

For your part, I suspect that his being tied to his wife has started to bother you a lot recently. I noticed that Mars, his significator, is in the sign ruled by Jupiter; since he says he loves his wife, she may well be represented by Jupiter. We also see that you are significator, Venus, has recently entered the sign of Cancer, where it exalts Jupiter. Both of you are obviously in his wife’s power. You have definitely been getting restless about the situation, since Venus is now in the fall of Mars, indicating that you are somehow harming him, or obsessing about this.

To see whether the two of you will ever be together, we want to see in aspect between your planets and his. Unfortunately, we do not really see that happening in the chart. The Moon’s next aspect will be a sextile to Jupiter, indicating that his wife will prevent your relationship from continuing. I am also concerned that this relationship may become more physical than anything else; Mars is about to move into Aries, where it is in the detriment of Venus, and the exaltation of the Sun. I think some of the love he has for you may wane, though not his sexual attraction to you. Finally, we see that the Sun will shortly oppose the Moon by antiscion, indicating a hidden separation; this would be fitting to show the end of a secret affair.

—Readers who wish to get an astrological reading from Nina Gryphon may find out more at http://www.gryphonastrology.com/astrologyreadings.html.

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