Gryphon Astrology Blog

Horary Question:

I was in a relationship for nearly four years; it was volatile and constant breaking up but it was always me as he never understood what he was doing. Beer/Friends/Football was number 1. I gave him my full 110% in the relationship but he couldn’t see it I was an asset that can achieve so much. I always chased him from day one; we’ve broken up loads and go back after him telling him I am sorry for everything I have done.

Then he never lets me live it down all the things I have done. We did split on bad terms this time and he hates me. It’s been since the 4th January 2007; that’s when I last saw him or heard. No contact has been made and nor can it come from me as I will lose friends, family, and that little respect I have left. I just want to know I was worth it, and for him to realize he was actually wrong and treated me very badly. This would make me feel the four years wasn’t a waste of time on someone so undeserving.

He hurt me a lot, now I want him to be in my shoes for once trying to get back calling, chasing etc. This might be silly but if he does when I say NO, I will get my respect and confidence back. Will he try and get back with me and when?

—G.

Nina Gryphon:

Dear G.,

It is always interesting to get the astrological perspective on what’s going on inside the mind of a person obviously engrossed with himself. Those of us who are at least aware of the existence of other people in the world find it hard to believe that someone could be so focused entirely on their own needs, to the exclusion of everyone and everything else. And yet, the world is full of these people. I cast a horary chart for your question, to see how he really feels about you and whether he would try to get you back. The horary chart for your question is below:

In this horoscope, you’re shown by Mars, ruler of the first house of self, and your emotions are shown by the Moon. He is shown by the ruler of your seventh house of partners, Venus, and his male urge to find a mate, or his pants, is shown by the Sun in Pisces. We see that recently Mars has left its exaltation in Capricorn, where it was in the triplicity of Venus, so we see you exiting the relationship, which didn’t seem that strong to begin with. Triplicity is not the stuff that grand passions are made of.

So how does he feel about you? Seemingly, he is still interested in you. Venus is in Aries, in your first house, which gives us a sense that he is still very interested and thinks of you. However, Venus is also in the exaltation of the Sun. So he likes you a great deal, but he likes his hormones and himself a lot as well. The Sun, showing his physical attraction, is not particularly interested in Mars, it is only in its triplicity. However, seeing it in the 12th house of self undoing (or his sixth house, which is also very malefic), gives me the sense that it’s going to be very hard for him to bestir himself to do anything about this.

Reinforcing this concept is the fact that the Moon is void of course, meaning it will not make any other aspect in its current sign. This usually means that nothing more will happen in the situation. We also do not see any of your planets meeting with his planets, for better or for worse. So my feeling is that he is just too self-absorbed, and not in a good place in his life, to really try to make an effort to reconcile.

— Readers who are interested in a horary reading with Nina Gryphon (free or paid) may contact her via her astrology readings page.

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