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Horary Question:

There was a guy I got to know rather well through an online dating site. He invited me to London (I live in Australia) for a week’s worth of activities…It was all fine planning until an ex-girlfriend called him and wanted to be ‘friends’…she wanted to visit him in London. He pondered her request, asked my opinion (I advised against the idea as diplomatically as I could), and then he decided in the end he would request her to visit him.

It was the straw that broke the camel’s back for me. I just couldn’t visit him under these conditions–I had a panic attack almost and wrote an email that I had to cancel. A crisis in conscience–you could say. My reasons were simple, it was too contrived on my part to visit him–I had to create a pretext for parents to accept my round the world trip with such short notice, secondly I come from a strict background and being in the company of a total male stranger is contrary to my upbringing and morality in spite of how hard I would have tried not to cross lines and keep it platonic. I felt a great deal of attraction to him…and this concerned me.

After my email to him where I poured out my heart saying I can’t, because you have too much going on in your life I never heard back from him, nor did he respond to a text message I subsequently sent.

Did he actually care at all for me or was this entirely one sided (i.e. I wanted something more than him)? Will he contact me again?

—A.

Nina Gryphon:

Dear A.,

Your situation sounds fairly challenging, and I can understand how you feel that this would not have worked given the contortions you would have had to do. On the other hand, I can see how he might feel deceived or disappointed, since you no doubt had the reservations that you listed from the very beginning. Perhaps he felt like you weren’t being entirely straightforward with him, and canceled when it got a little too real. That said, it is hard to say whether he was really toying with you or was serious, and we can use astrology to see how he felt and whether he is likely to contact you.

I cast a chart for the moment I understood your question, a technique known as horary astrology. This is a very old method that first came into use when many people did not know their dates or times of birth, several thousand years ago. It is the best method for understanding a situation, and getting a snapshot of the circumstances from an objective perspective. The horary chart for your question is below:

You are shown by Jupiter, ruler of the first house of self, your emotions are shown by the Moon, and Venus is your physical/hormonal need to find a mate. The man is shown by Mercury, ruler of your seventh house of partners, and his need-to-find-a-mate side is shown by the Sun.

Since we are most curious about how he feels, let us start with his planets. Mercury is retrograde in Pisces, and will soon reenter Aquarius. So we see that his mind about you has changed; he is still interested in you, but soon, Mercury will leave Pisces, the sign of Sagittarius, and he will no longer be interested in you. The Sun, on the other hand, has recently left Aquarius and entered Pisces. So we see that on a physical attraction level, he is much more interested in you that he was previously.

What is going on? I suspect that the ex-girlfriend is shown by Saturn, which rules the sign of Aquarius. Saturn is in the sign of the Sun, so she is very interested in his physical male side. Until recently, he was probably most interested in her physically, as she seemed quite available. This is shown by the Sun being in Aquarius until very recently, and perhaps their breakup was shown by the recent Sun-Saturn opposition. However, mentally, he was primarily interested in you, and still is, but he will soon be more interested in the ex-girlfriend. This is shown by Mercury, which shows his rational mind, leaving Pisces for Aquarius. Further, the fact that Mercury is retrograde, indicates that he is returning to something in the past.

Because both of his significators are at the moment still in the sign of Jupiter, we might consider that there is a chance he will get in touch. To do so, we would need to see in aspect between one of his planets (Sun or Mercury) and one of your planets (Moon, Venus, or Jupiter). We do not see this happening, so we can conclude that he will not be in touch, and instead will focus on reviving his relationship with his more available ex-girlfriend.

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