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Horary Question:

I’m a woman with a married lover. We’ve been lovers since Labor Day weekend 2006 and he keeps telling me he’s leaving his wife. Will he leave her? Will he marry me? An astrologer told me we are soulmates because we both have our Sun and Moon in the same signs, except she said that that is also our biggest problem or challenge.

—B.

Nina Gryphon:

Dear B.,

You’re certainly stuck in a difficult situation, and based on the e-mails I get, it is by no means uncommon. The frustrating thing is that there is no one blanket answer. Sometimes the married partner does leave their spouse and a truly incompatible marriage for a positive new start; sometimes, they are just leading you on and have no intention of leaving anyone. This is where astrology can be so helpful, because we can see the true motivations of the parties involved.

I cast a horary chart for the time that I understood your question, a method known as horary astrology, which uses a chart for the time and place of the question. This is different from a natal chart, which uses your own birth time to cast your natal horoscope. The horary chart for your question is below:

You are signified by Mars, ruler of the first house of self, and your emotions are shown by the Moon. Your partner is shown by Venus, ruler of the seenth house of partners, and his male “I need to find a mate” side is shown by the Sun. We will also need to look around the chart for the wife, so that we can see how attached your lover is to her and whether he is likely to leave her.

Mars is in the sign of Capricorn, where it is in the sign of Saturn, the triplicity of Venus, and the detriment of the Moon. Since we know that your lover is shown by Venus, we see that you have positive and friendly feelings toward him, though right now, Saturn and whatever it represents is the foremost thing on your mind. I wonder if Saturn could be the wife? We also see that Mars is in the detriment of the Moon, which symbolizes your emotions. So whatever the Saturn thing is that weighs so heavily on you is also making you unhappy and frustrated. It’s looking more and more as though Saturn could be the wife, based on your description of the situation.

The Moon, your emotions, is also in a sign ruled by Saturn, Aquarius. It is in the detriment of the Sun, representing your lover’s mate-finding side, so we see some emotional resentment here. If we look at the Sun, we see that it is in its own detriment and it is in Saturn’s sign. So at least for the moment, your lover is firmly under his wife’s thumb and is not headed anywhere. But look at this: the Sun is about to move out of Aquarius into Pisces, where it will no longer be ruled by Saturn. Instead, it will be in the sign of Jupiter. Whatever Jupiter represents is important in this chart, as we see that your lover’s significator, Venus is already in the sign of Jupiter. If we cast the Arabian part of divorce for this chart, as we should whenever divorce is a real possibility, it is at 17° Sagittarius. So its ruler, Jupiter, represents divorce. With the Sun moving from Aquarius into Pisces, we would expect that your lover will indeed divorce his wife.

Further confirmation of this is shown by the Moon translating the light between Jupiter (divorce) and Saturn (the wife). In other words, you will be bringing divorce to the wife, albeit indirectly. In the Arabian Part of Marriage is at 16° Libra, so we see that since Venus (and soon the Sun) exalts Venus, the ruler of the Part of Marriage, we would assume that your lover will wish to marry you. Venus and Mars have recently separated from a sextile aspect, which, given the situation, may show that the marriage is going to happen. Alternatively, it can show that the two of you have gotten is close to marriage as you’re ever going to get. However, I would assume that since he is getting divorced, the marriage will happen.

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