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Horary Question:

Is there any hope for a joyful, long-term relationship with this man? I’ve been in a relationship with a man as a “lover” for 4 years +….he was very unavailable due to work and other relationships, but the times when we were together were very beautiful. I feel a very strong connection to this man and love him dearly. I was often doubtful of his love for me, however, for obvious reasons….and at the same time, I KNEW he loved me.

But I’ve been longing for a deeper relationship with someone who does have time for one! And who is not “getting out or just hanging on” to the one he’s been in for about 15 years. I’ve decided to stop “working” on keeping our relationship going, and our contact has dwindled. We are both embarking on new careers and it is taking much of our time.

I wonder if this is the gentle ending of our love affair? I feel open to what is for my best, and I do believe that whatever happens will be for the best of both of us….but there sure was a lot of love there.

—M.

Nina Gryphon:

Dear M.,

It is challenging to love someone who seems to love us but cannot give of themselves fully. A number of the questions that I get on this blog, as well as situations I have observed out there in the real world, seem to revolve around this very problem. I must confess that to this day, I do not fully understand why some people act like that, and my only explanation is that we all have a certain amount of love to share with others. For some of us, it is the equivalent of a full propane tank, and for others, it is more like a shot glass full. If we are in love with someone who is of the shot glass capacity, they may be giving us all of their love, but it may not be enough. But let’s get to the astrology.

I cast a horoscope for the moment I understood your question, a method known as horary astrology. The horoscope for your question is below:

You are shown by the Moon and by Venus, while your lover is ruled by Saturn, ruler of your seventh house of partners. His co-significator, indicating his “male urge to find a mate” is shown by the Sun. Venus is the female equivalent of the Sun, for our purposes. The Moon is in Libra, the exaltation of Saturn, and the sign of Venus. You are putting this guy on a bit of a pedestal, most likely because you so want a deep and meaningful partnership. In other words, I think we see your hormones talking just a little bit.

His significators are Saturn and the Sun, each of which is interested in the other first and foremost. Saturn is in the sign of the Sun, Leo, while the Sun is in the sign of Saturn. Neither of his planets seem very interested in Venus or the Moon, which makes a long-term relationship with him difficult. Moreover, neither of your planets is about to aspect is, showing that it will be difficult to find an opportunity to keep this relationship going. The good news is that you seem to have a very promising career ahead of you, and though it will be difficult to maintain a relationship with him largely because of this (at least from your perspective), I believe that your career will be extremely worthwhile. It is shown by the ruler of the 10th house, Jupiter in its own sign in Sagittarius, and the 10th house cusp is conjunct the benefic North node. The Moon is about to sextile this benefic Jupiter, and though it is one of the planets prohibiting an aspect between the Moon and the Sun, I feel like your career is going to be a much more positive direction for you to follow for the long-term.

— Readers who are interested in a horary reading (free or paid) may contact Nina Gryphon via her astrology readings page.

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