Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Will We Get Back Together or Should I Keep Looking?

January 24, 2007 by  

Loves of the Winds and of the Seasons

Horary Question:

Will I soon find my true & lasting love? And what about my ex-girlfriend, is it possible to renew our relationship in a healthy way this time? Let me start by telling you that I have known my last girlfriend a few years. We were friends then became lovers, and back again, friends, since we broke up six months ago. We had some trust issues, age differences to work up with, or just bad timing, I don’t know. Anyway, I had that painful feeling like losing my soulmate long after the breakup…we had a great time, and we understood each other, but didn’t have a clue.

After some time I found new opportunities, got on with my life, and convinced myself that I can handle this situation if I can manage the uncertainty of it to a minimal level, but, I still miss her optimism, warmth, sincerity, energy and great humor, all the qualities I admire in women most. We are still seeing each other occasionally, only that now she has someone else. I can feel that we still express much sympathy for each other, much joy talking to each other, but on the other hand if I am to ever stand a chance of getting this woman back, maybe I should marry her.

I’m not obsessed with her, but I’m curious to know what’s going on between us, what’s the purpose behind our earth ”relationship”?


Nina Gryphon:

Dear A.,

One of the challenges that I see a lot in relationship questions in horoscopes is that for whatever reason, the person who wants to find the perfect relationship is not quite ready to do so. Over time, in my astrology practice, that is what I look for first and foremost when asked the type of question you’re asking. I look at the readiness of the person to be in a relationship before I even look to see whether Mr. or Mrs. Right will ever show up. After all, if one is not ready, the relationship will never begin, even if there are a thousand perfect partners hovering nearby.

With that in mind, I cast a horoscope for the time that I understood your question, a method known as horary astrology. Horary astrology is the art of answering questions with a horoscope based on the moment when the astrologer understood the question. The horary chart for your question is below:

Reconcile or Find True Love?  Horary Astrology Chart


You are shown by the ruler of the first house of self, Mars in Capricorn. Your male urge to find a mate is shown by the Sun, while your emotions are shown by the Moon. The seventh house shows partners, but we do not know whether it shows your ex-girlfriend, or some other potential partner. We will have to untangle the chart to see which planet represents whom.

Both the Sun and Mars are in strong dignities of Saturn, so they are interested in whatever Saturn represents. This is one hint that Saturn may be your ex-girlfriend, but you seem conflicted about her, to say the least. The Moon, your emotions, is in the fall of Saturn, so it looks as though emotionally you are still kind of torn up about what happened between the two of you. I believe that you are not in a good place to begin a relationship right now, even if Mrs. Perfect showed up on your doorstep. This is because the Moon is also in the detriment of Venus, who I believe shows some future potential partner. On the other hand, the Moon is very interested in Mars and the Sun, your co-significators. Seeing the Moon just inside the first house of self, I get the feeling that you are nursing your wounds at this point.

Let’s see how your ex-girlfriend feels about you. I think she is attracted to you on a physical level, because Saturn is in the sign of the Sun, which is your bio urge to mate. I think that she might be interested in a reconciliation, because Saturn is retrograde, showing a potential return to the relationship. The Moon will trine Saturn in about 4Ā°, which may indicate an opportunity to reconcile. My concern is that the Moon will still be in the fall of Saturn — you’re not going to be fully onboard with reconciling, perhaps because old disagreements or problems will once again resurface. Unless we see some degree of mutual interest, the reconciliation odds seem against you.

So, will there be anybody else on the horizon? This person will be shown by Venus, ruler of the seventh house. After meeting Saturn, the Moon would have gone to sextile Venus. I do believe that Saturn acts as prohibition in this case; your emotional entanglement with your girlfriend will probably prevent you from entering another relationship in the near future. However, the overriding take-home message is this: you have to put yourself in a position where you are truly ready for a relationship, and can contribute something of value to the partnership. Right now, you are nursing your wounds, which is not that helpful.

—Readers who wish to request a horary reading from Nina Gryphon may do so via the astrology readings page.


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