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Horary Question:

Last year, I started a new job and eventually noticed that one of my coworkers seemed to be interested in me. I was also becoming very interested in him - there was definitely something between us. I asked him out, but he declined because we worked together. However, he said if that weren’t the case, he’d be with me in a heartbeat.

We never saw each other outside of work, and our interactions were always very professional and appropriate. Our relationship was really never more than friendship, although my feelings for him continued to increase.

Unfortunately, my department supervisor began to bully me, set me up to fail, and instigate rumours about me within the company. I knew she considered me a threat, and I wondered if she had taken an unhealthy interest in my friendship with this man and was somehow jealous.

This man seemed to distance himself from me, although he never treated me any differently. I used to see him all the time at work, and then suddenly, he was never around. By July, I hardly ever saw him, and in September, I quit the company because I couldn’t stand the bullying and harassment from my supervisor. I haven’t seen or spoken with him since then.

My question is basically: What happened? It seemed that he and I were getting along very well, and I have absolutely no doubt that there was something between us, and then suddently it was gone. Apart from possible interference from my supervisor, I cannot seem to find an obvious reason for the feeling to just go completely dead, unless I completely misunderstood his attentions.

Was he really interested in me? And if so, why did everything suddenly disappear? Is there any chance that he and I may renew our bond in the future?

—R.

Nina Gryphon:

Dear R.,

Situations like the one you describe always make me wonder what the heck was really going on behind the scenes. In my experience, a lot of workplace politics is stranger than fiction, and often, when relationships in the workplace come to light, one can feel as though one is living on the set of a soap opera. So when I examine this horary horoscope, I will keep an eye out for interesting and complex relationships you may not have known about. The horary chart for your question is below:

In this horary chart, you are shown by Mercury, ruler of the first house of self. We will also look at Venus, which rules your female urge to find a mate, and at the Moon, which shows your emotions. The man in question is shown by Jupiter, ruler of your seventh house of partners, and by the Sun, which shows his male urge to find a mate. We will look at the way these planets interact to determine the influences upon your relationship.

We see that the Moon is in Sagittarius in the seventh house, showing that emotionally, you are still quite interested in your former coworker. We also see that you have mostly gotten over the heartbreaking nature of the situation, since we see that your significator, Mercury, has just moved out of Capricorn, where it was in the fall of Jupiter, into Aquarius. Your acute disappointment in the unpleasant end of the relationship has mostly passed.

We see that the Moon has just separated from a sextile to Venus, and prior to that, separated from a conjunction with Jupiter. When we see a separating aspect between the two people you want to bring together, this usually means that the two of you got as close together to a relationship as is going to happen. This notion is confirmed by the fact that Jupiter is in its own sign in Sagittarius, where it is in the detriment of Mercury. In other words, this man is very interested in protecting himself at work and he has his own interests in mind, and this harms you (Mercury). In short, I do not think that a relationship will be rekindled with him, since he is too interested in himself to put himself out for you.

So, it looks as though the reason he backed away from the relationship, was that it was starting to impinge upon his comfort level. If he found himself having feelings for you, this was not part of his plan, and he had to distance himself.

I did wonder to what degree your former boss played into this. The boss is shown by the ruler of your 10th house of superiors, Saturn, which is in its detriment in Leo, and retrograde. This is one nasty individual, and the fact that Saturn is in an angular house, shows that she had the means to really make your life unpleasant, and she did. Saturn squares the ascendant-descendant axis in mundo, harming your relationships. What is interesting is that Saturn is not in negative dignities of Mercury, suggesting that whatever she did to you, it was not personal. It was strictly business. Note that Saturn is in Leo, which is ruled by the Sun. As you will recall, the Sun is the “me Tarzan” part of your former coworker. I do believe your boss was interested in this man, and she did what she could to get you out of the picture.

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