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Question:

My boyfriend of three and a half years have not spoken in over a month. This is not the first time we have had a separation like this, however, before it was only two weeks or so, not over a month. There was no break up — there was no goodbye… just a click - and that is it. I miss him terribly, my heart aches. My children miss him and ask about him — they are used to him being here and gone for a few days, but I cannot keep telling them he is still at work!

I am a single Mom of three kids. My children ADORE him, and he is excellent with them. He has been such a steadfast presence in my life. He has been an incredible gift from above…

A major issue between us was money. He lives at home with his parents, he has a good-sized nest egg in the bank, he has no bills (his car is paid off) and he is extremely cheap.

I am hoping you can give me some insight or some advise as to what to do, or what is going on with us. Will he come back ? I have no desire to seek love elsewhere… He is all I see for my future, but lately - it seems bleak.

—A.

Nina Gryphon:

Dear A.,

I am sorry to hear about your break-up, as these things are always so traumatic for everyone. Let us see what the stars say. As always, I cast a chart for the moment I understood your question, which is a method known as horary astrology, an old method where the answer to a question is contained in the horoscope for the question itself. This is perhaps the oldest form of astrology, far preceding the widespread use of natal horoscopes which are so familiar to us today. The horoscope for your question is below:

We see that the Ascendant is on the fixed star Aldebaran, which promises new beginnings and a new cycle in general. The Ascendant represents you in this situation, so it makes us think that you are about to embark on a new adventure. Your significator is Mercury at 24 Libra, where it is conjunct the fixed star Spica, which is a benefic star showing that everything is going to be okay; even if you don’t get everything you wish for exactly, things will be good. Mercury is pretty strong here, because it is in its own triplicity, so we see that you haven’t taken leave of your senses because of this breakup.

Your co-significators are Venus in Virgo, which shows your feminine, mate-finding side, and the Moon in Sagittarius, which shows your emotions. Venus is very weak in Virgo, which is the sign of its fall, showing us that you are sad and upset over this. The good news is that Venus will soon move into Libra, which is its own sign, so we see that you are coming into your own. Along with the Ascendant showing a new beginning, this is a very positive thing. The Moon is in the seventh house (and no, Fifth Dimension fans, Jupiter is not aligned with Mars), indicating that your guy is very much on your mind. Interestingly, the Moon is conjunct the fixed star Antares which shows the ending of a cycle. So we see one cycle ending and a new one beginning.

Your guy is shown by Jupiter, ruler of your seventh house of partners. Jupiter is not liking you at the moment. It is in Scorpio, where it is in the detriment of Venus and the fall of the Moon. For whatever reason, your guy is upset and strongly so. However, all is not totally lost. His co-significator, the Sun, which shows his male mate-finding urge, is in the sign of Libra, where it is controlled by Venus, which is you. The problem is that in Libra, the Sun is in the sign of its fall and therefore it finds it difficult to act.

We see that the Moon has recently separated from a sextile of the Sun, about three and some degrees ago, which means that you two have not spoken for four weeks and a bit. The biggest challenge that I see here is that none of your planets are contacting his planets. Also, he just doesn’t seem to be that motivated to continue the relationship, unlike you. This makes me suspect that you will try to rekindle the relationship, but I am not sure that this patient can be easily resuscitated. Given the man’s feelings, I am not sure that pushing him will accomplish very much. At least in the foreseeable future, I think you’ll have to content yourself by taking this very slowly and being prepared for some amount of rejection.

—Readers interested in a private consultation with Nina Gryphon may contact her at nina@gryphonastrology.com.

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