Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology - Will My Boyfriend Return to Me?
December 11th, 2006 at 1:24 pm (Free Astrology Readings)
Question:
My boyfriend broke up with me via text message last night after an argument. For the last month or so, we have been butting heads often, mostly over time, or the lack of or over calling, or not calling. He has met my parents, shopped with my mother & I, met my cousins ( I have a huge family), met my grandmother, fixed stuff all around her house. I assumed nothing, except that everything he said to me was the truth. He spoke of marriage, moving in together, wanting babies, wanting to appreciate me, blah, blah, blah. He called constantly daily & nightly for months.
I am 25 and a graduate student, no kids, never married, and (not tooting my own horn, but just going off of others’ comments) very, very pretty and very curvy, appealing figure. He is 22 and is an aspiring business entrepreneur, has one son that is 18 months old, and never married his son’s mother who is 21, but they all lived together for a few months. They broke up when the baby was 2 months old.
My heart is crushed & I feel weak which is not a feeling I’m used to. I’m finding it hard to concentrate because all I keep thinking is, “How could you be so stupid!” Will we get back together, or should I move on?
—D.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear D.,
Your situation sounds difficult, and it’s obvious that you are still very attached to him. Since you broke up so recently, I am sure that the situation is not beyond repair. I do find it kind of…unpleasant that he broke up with you via text message.
Below is the horary chart for your question. Horary astrology, which is the technique I use on this blog (and in my practice) to answer questions, is an ancient method used to cast horoscopes for the moment of a question. It is the birth chart of one’s question, and the answer is contained therein.
You are shown by Mars and he is shown by Venus. Mars is in Libra, the Sun ruled by Venus, so we can see that you are extremely interested in him. However, there is also another subtext here; you are in love with him because you are not quite content with yourself or are attracted to bad boys. This is not exactly the most healthy dynamic. I suspect that the reason that you two had difficulties in your relationship was connected to his son. Venus, your boyfriend’s planet, is in his fifth house of children, and as a result, Venus is in the sign of its fall. In other words, he cannot give you the affection you need because he is spending so much time and energy on his child.
His masculine side, or his physical side, is shown by the Sun, which is in Libra, where it is in its fall. He is clearly not giving you the attention you crave. So will you get back together? I think you will, but I do not think that it will last. The Moon, your co-significator, is in Sagittarius, where it is in the detriment of Mercury. It will shortly sextile the Sun, but the two planets are not that interested in one another. This is not the stuff of lasting relationships. You may come to some kind of uneasy truce about him spending less time with his son and more time with you. However, I do not think that you can maintain that state. His planet, Venus, is about to move into its own sign, so we can see that he is going to get into his comfort zone, but Libra is also the detriment of Mars, so this will be at your expense. Frankly, based on how the chart shows him, I am not very enthusiastic about him, and feel that you could do better.
—Readers who are interested in a private consultation with Nina may contact her at nina@gryphonastrology.com.
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Gary Calderone said,
December 11th, 2006 at 4:15 pm
As supporting testimony to the above, the Part of Marriage, which is useful for any relationship, is at 18 Gemini. Mercury is the significator of the relationship as an entity. It is in the querent’s 12th house, her undoing, her secret enemy; plus Mercury in Libra is ‘controlled’ by Venus (him). He is calling the shots here and was the one who ended it. Mercury is on the benefic star Spica which might suggest that, as Nina said, he may return temporarily. The benevolence of Spica isnt enough to overcome the other negative testimonies though. I dont have my copy of Robson with me right now (I’m not at home) so I dont know what else it might mean here.
regards
G.
gryphonastrology said,
December 12th, 2006 at 1:35 pm
Dear Gary,
Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I am inclined to see Mercury as the child in my efforts to keep the Arabian Parts to a minimum. Either way, I do agree with you that this is not a relationship worth returning to.
Warmly,
Nina
heather said,
January 25th, 2007 at 10:01 am
My boyfriend and I broke up 3 days ago after dating almost 6 and a half years I am 22 & he is 23 we broke up before about six months after we started dating however we still were always together..then we got back together for about 2 years & he came to me & said he wasnt happy anymore…He also after about a month of breaking up we started spending time together again like before & within a year we were back together..we talked about marriage we went to his parents house one night & he told them he wanted to marry me we told the family & went to look at rings but he never would ask me…then he began getting into riding horses with his uncle (who spoke poorly of being married to him) and then he gradually started pulling away he didnt want to spend much time with me & he came to me last year about this same time of year & said he wasnt happy but agreed he loved me so we would work on things & he asked me to move in..well i was in school still so I decided just to stay over 4-5 nights a week & i cooked and cleaned & moved somethings in & we both agreed we were at our happiest..then we looked at rings again & picked out childrens names & everything was fine up until last sunday night I emailed him a picture of a ring I wanted & he wrote me an e-mail the next day breaking up with me because I was ready to get married & he wasnt & he didnt want to hold my life back he also said that he wasnt in love with me anymore & the email was written in all caps he also changed to locks to his house & was eager for me to get my things out because he said he couldn’t live with anyone he liked being alone..he has told me he still wants to be friends & he called my mom & told her basically the same as my email & told her he still loved her & my family & that he could only break up with me in an email because if he did it on the phone/person I’d convince him to get back together..I spoke to him mom yesterday she is furious with him & his uncle because of the influnence he has over him..she said that when she talked to him he could not tell her that he didnt love me he said i dont know…I just want your opnion..will we get back together?
Karishma said,
August 6th, 2007 at 6:33 am
Respected Maden or Sir
MY name is Karishma My date of birth is 13 December 1981 and Place of Birth is Porbandar (Gujarat - India)
My husband ’s name is Hemraj his date of birth is 1st January 1972
and Place of Birth is (Bhavnagar - India)
plese tell me about my problm. I get married with my husband on 9th December 2002 . But this relationship is not liked by his family members specialy by his mother. so after 3 year at 23rd of february because of his mother s force he get another marraige with his cast ’s girl. we are both from different cast. but he did not give me Ligaly divorce. So ligaly i m still his wife . I love my husband very much . But now he a child (Boy) by his second wife on 22nd of January 2007. Now a day s he come to meet me in once a month . He love s me very much but because of his mother ’s desire he is living with his second wife . SO PLEASE TELL ME THAT IS HE COME BACK IN MY LIFE AS HUSBAND IN FRONT OF SOCIETY AND HE LIVES WITH ME PERMENENTLY FOR WHOLE LIFE ? IS HE LEAVES HIS SECOND WIFE ?. I M READY TO ADOPT HIS CHILD. I WANT HIM ANY HOW . PLEASE TELL ME AND HELP ME . I MISS HIM A LOT.