Free Astrology Advice: Horary Astrology – Should I Stay or Should I Go?

October 31, 2006 by  

Horary Astrology - Should I Stay or Should I Go?


I am in desperate need of advice about my current situation, should I leave my partner or remain and focus on repairing our relationship. We have two children together and have been together on and off for seven years, but recently I have been very frustrated as I am more wild, creative, and imaginative than my partner. And if he lets me get close I do not usually feel interested. Is this going to pass? My karma said I was a Sagittarius in my past life and I need to stop reverting back to it, by being single and needing freedom.


Nina Gryphon:

Dear L.,

I am really not an expert on anything karma related, but it seems to me that being in a seven-year relationship with two kids is a pretty heavy commitment, so you’re doing okay on the karmic front.

Perhaps from an astrological perspective, we’ll get a better picture of what is going on in your relationship. I must admit I’m kind of puzzled; your difficulties seem to be emotional as well as sexual, but a lot of it seems to have to do with the communication between the two of you. On the other hand, if you have been together seven years, presumably you’re not afraid to talk about major issues. So, let’s take a look at your chart.

As always, I set a horoscope for the time that I understood your question, which is a method known as horary astrology. This is a method that is very old and dates back from thousands of years ago. It was very popular because one did not need a time, date or place of birth to get very clear and specific answers to questions of all sorts. On this blog, I get most of the questions that have to do with love, career, money and so on. But the range of questions we can answer is far greater. A few examples that immediately come to mind are asking when a certain type of stock or commodity will go up so we know when to sell, general celebrity gossip (“Is Mr. Hollywood cheating on Mrs. Hollywood?”), determining paternity, finding your lost stuff and almost anything else you can think of. To get back to your question, the horoscope for your question is below:

Horary Astrology - Should I Stay or Should I Go?
You are represented by Jupiter, Lord of the first house of self. Jupiter is not terribly fabulous. It is in Scorpio, where it doesn’t have a lot of strength, and it is in the 12th house of self undoing. My long-term readers will note that the 12th house usually shows a person to be their own worst enemy in a situation, and is often indicated when someone is ill or depressed or otherwise in a swamp of their own device. The 12th house does not have anything to do with spirituality, as some astrologers claim. Either that or many of the people who write into this column are actually highly advanced spiritual gurus and I just never picked up on it. In Scorpio, Jupiter is in the fall of the Moon and the detriment of Venus. We see that you are unhappy with your emotional state as well as your “I am Woman” instincts and general attractiveness.

Part of the problem is that you’re not feeling really good about yourself as a woman right now, whether this is physical or more profound and that you’re not feeling your needs are satisfied. We notice that Venus is in the sign of its fall and it is also on the midheaven, so we see that your physical needs are primarily what is on your mind. Seemingly, everything is good. Your partner, represented by Mercury in Libra is very interested in you, Venus. More accurately, he likes you because he wants to have a partner and he is physically attracted to you. Since Venus is in the sign of Mercury, Virgo, we see the relationship is at least superficially working out. The problem is that Venus is not in Gemini, the seventh house of the partner, but rather we see that you are with him because you don’t feel too good about yourself. This is why you’re experiencing this tension.

Does this mean you should leave? I do not think this would necessarily solve your problems. The man seems rather interested in you; the Sun has just moved into Libra, showing that he has become very interested in you physically. Mercury is in the middle of Libra, so his feelings about you are not about to change. Mercury in Libra as such is fine, you could do a lot worse than this guy. I think your main challenge is to get to a point where you feel good about yourself and about your life. This is something that you can accomplish in or out of this relationship, so I do not think it makes much difference where you stay or leave; that will have to be determined by the practicalities of the situation and whether you think you can raise two kids on your own.

I do notice that the Moon is about to conjoin Mercury, which is really the only impending movement in the situation. So we can see that you will shortly invest more of your emotions in the relationship. I think the better course of action is to work on yourself first, and critique what is going on with you and your life. The best advice I can give is to work from the inside out. If you change yourself, only then can you go and change the rest of your world. This is often very painful, but nobody can do it for you and it won’t fix itself. My sense is that if you do this properly, the relationship may well come to a close all of its own accord. This is because the fixed star Antares is on the ascendant. Antares is a Royal star that shows endings, and we may well see a natural ending to this relationship as you figure out what to do with yourself.

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