Free Astrology Advice – Horary Astrology: Will My Boyfriend Return to Me?

October 24, 2006 by  

Free Astrology Advice - Horary Astrology: Will My Boyfriend Return to Me?


About four months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of two years. He was upset but agreed to break up. Since then I have regretted the breakup and feel lost without him. For the first three months after the breakup, we were friends. I would still see him every two weeks and we would go for lunch or dinner to talk as friends. But I was hoping he would come back to me. I would ask him over and over if we could try our relationship again, that I love him and want to work us out. He replied no, and he cannot go back, because his feelings for me were not the same any more. He said I was in denial and need to move on, so I left it at that.

Then about three weeks ago from today I had to pick up a DVD that he had of mine, so I went to his house. And he didn’t want me to leave. He asked if we can go to dinner and I agreed. While we where driving he wouldn’t stop starring at me and touching my face, saying how beautiful I am and so on. When we got to the restaurant, it was the same thing – he wouldn’t even eat his food – he just kept staring at me. I was uncomfortable and told him to stop. He said “I cannot help it” after that, we left the restaurant, and I went home.

From that day on I called him twice and he didn’t return my call- then I tried again and he did call me back. When he came by I said let’s give us another chance. Again, he said no, because his heart is not in it anymore. He said stop holding on and move on. I started to cry cause I don’t understand this? After that day, I called him the next morning and told him I can no longer be friends with him, because it’s only making me hope he will come back to me. So after this I haven’t called him at all and vice versa. It has now been three weeks. I am confused and hurt: why is he doing this? And acting this way? Can you please give me some helpful advice? But I am sticking to my guns and not calling him anymore. My question is: will he come back?


Nina Gryphon:

Dear V.,

I really sympathize with your situation, and I understand how difficult it must be to deal with someone who plays with your heart like that. After analyzing the horoscope, I will give some suggestions at the bottom of this post to either help you reconcile, or to help you get over him, whichever the horoscope shows is most appropriate for your situation.

Perhaps the horoscope will not show that either is particularly more appropriate, and you may have to make the decision yourself as to whether you wish to give yourself and him another chance, or just let it go. Either way, there are things that you can do to help yourself.

As always, I cast a horoscope for the moment that I understood your question. Because this column is getting to the point where there is quite a long waiting time, I will start to note the day the question was asked, so that when you ask for timing, such as when something would happen, you can count forward from the time of the question, NOT the time of this post, which was written much later. I use a technique known as horary astrology which has to do with casting a “birth chart” for your question, and the answer is contained in the horoscope for your question. Here, the question was asked on September 21, 2006. The horoscope for your question about whether your boyfriend would come back is below:

Free Astrology Advice - Horary Astrology: Will My Boyfriend Return to Me?

You are shown by Venus, ruler of the first house of self, and the moon, which shows your emotional side. Your ex-boyfriend is shown by Mars, which rules your seventh house of significant others, and the Sun, which shows his level of sexual attraction to you, as well as they are just to simply find a mate. If we can see your planets and his planets coming together in a reasonably plausible fashion, we can say the two of you will get back together. First thing that I noticed is that both of his planets are in the 12th house – his sixth house if you turn the chart. Whether it’s the 12th or the sixth, this is considered a malefic house from which planets cannot easily act. So we can see that getting him back to you is going to be pretty difficult.

My ray of hope here is that your two planets are in the very benefic 11th house, showing that you have the upper hand in the situation. The problem is that Venus and the moon are in Virgo, where they are in the fall of Venus. So we can see that you’re feeling bad about yourself, and are kind of beating yourself up a bit. The Sun, which is the sexual side, is also in Virgo, so we can see that he has been recently disappointed with you. The good news is that the Sun is about to move into Libra in 1.5°, where it’s going to be in the sign of Venus. So very shortly, he is going to become very interested in you again. The difficulty is that in Libra, the Sun is in its fall, and in this case, it will still be in the 12th house. So his feelings may change favorably toward you, but he may not act on them.

Even so, we see that the moon has very recently separated from a conjunction with Venus, and will conjoin the Sun in 9 degrees. This is something called a translation of light, when a fast-moving planet joins two slower planets that would not come together otherwise. This would bode well for the two of you reconciling. I am a bit concerned, that this is going to occur in Virgo, where Venus is so weak and where the Sun so dislikes Venus. So it’s as though there will be an opportunity to reconcile (and I think you will take that opportunity) but at the very least it will be a while before the relationship can resume as it was before. I would say that you could reconcile in 9 days or weeks from the question, but if it doesn’t happen then, it will not happen at all, as this time represents your best opportunity to reconcile.

The good news is that Mars, his planet, is in the sign of Venus, where it loves whatever Venus stands for, which in this horoscope is you. Unfortunately, Mars is very weak, both because it is in the sign of its detriment, and because it is in a cadent and malefic house. So we keep getting this picture that he is very interested in you and will be more interested shortly, but he will not be in a position to act on that.

One thing that I noticed is that the very benefic star Spica is on the ascendant, showing that no matter what happens with the situation, it will happen for the best. Spica is associated with the Virgin Mary, and therefore has a very blessing and protective influence. I do not know if you’re at all religious, but this gives me a sense that prayer would be a very good way to determine what your next steps should be with regard to this relationship. The horoscope shows that you can resume the relationship if you want, but I think it will take a lot of work and I think it will not necessarily be worth all the effort.

Spiritual work to Forget Him

The most common thing to do when one wants to break up with someone is to take a walnut bath. It is traditional to do this with black walnuts, which are indigenous to North America, but you can use regular walnuts as well (in the shell). One boils nine walnuts down in a pot of water, so you get a very dark tea. You then put the tea in a bathtub full of water, and take a bath. You will want to be in the bath for nine minutes, and immerse yourself totally, head and all, in the water nine times. Every time you immerse yourself, pray that this relationship ends. This bath has a very liberating effect, and will go a very long way to help you forget him. Needless to say, you had better be sure that this is what you really want, as there is no undoing this work.

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2 Responses to “Free Astrology Advice – Horary Astrology: Will My Boyfriend Return to Me?”

  1. angus on July 3rd, 2007 7:27 am

    Hi all,

    Why not use 11th house to represent her ex-boyfriend? In fact, they are only friends indeed. The seventh house often represent husband, I mean it is more close.

    Thanks a lot.

    Angus from Taiwan

  2. Janine Heimberger on October 23rd, 2008 6:03 am

    I am a muralist and have enjoyed steady work in my field for over 15 years. I’ve long realized that I need to make a gradual change in my career due to the physical demands that it requires (scaffolding, ladders, etc). It appears that economic times are forcing me to change quicker than I had expected. This is usually how I operate : ) I get comfortable in a situation and am not motivated to make changes.
    My question is; will I be making a change of career? And will it still be in the art field? And will I find success in what I do?
    Thank you!
    Janine Heimberger

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