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Question:

The man in whom I am interested and I run a dating site, and we are both moderators. He currently dates several women and had a horrific divorce last year. I can see a future with this man romantically. Sometimes he seems sooo interested, and sometimes not at all but then he’ll say something that just throws me. My intuition says we’ll end up together. I don’t force any issues. I am patiently waiting, though sometimes I want to leap. I am able to control it most of the time. It is REALLY hard for me to focus these days and that has never been me. He’s all I can think of. What do you think?

—A.

Nina Gryphon:

Dear A.:

Not that I advocate Sun sign astrology on this blog, since most of the time it’s pretty simplistic and only scratches the surface. That said, in my experience Scorpios are not the easiest to read, even though they think it protects them; most of the time it just complicates their lives. I have always advocated full disclosure, for the sanity of all. But then I would not get about 80% of the free reading requests I do for the advice column on this blog.

So let us see what is going on with your situation. As always, I have cast a chart for the moment I understood your question. This method is known as horary astrology, and it is probably the oldest known form of astrology, built on the premise that the answer is contained in the horoscope for the time of the question. It works best with specific questions, rather than “what the heck is going on and what does my future hold?” types of questions.

In this horoscope, you are represented by Venus in Virgo in the 11th house. Venus in Virgo is in its fall, so it is not very strong. This probably refers to the fact that you are feeling all out of sorts in focusing on this man. Venus is also placed in the 11th house of hopes and wishes, so we can see that your hopes and high expectations for this relationship are giving you trouble. Your emotions are shown by the moon in Taurus in the eighth house. The moon is conjunct the fixed star Algol, which shows you losing your head. In sum, it looks as though you are really head over heels for this guy, though a lot of it has to do with your projecting your own dreams onto him. We need to look at what’s going on with him, to see whether he can fulfill your dreams.

He is shown by Mars in Libra in the 12th house. Libra is Venus is sign, so we know that by being in Libra, Mars is very interested in Venus. Venus, of course, represents you in this horoscope. Mars has only recently entered Libra, showing that his feelings for you are a relatively new development. Just before entering Libra Mars was in Virgo, where he was very interested in the ruler of Virgo, Mercury. We already saw that Mercury represents your hopes and wishes, but often planets will take on multiple roles in a chart. You said he has gotten out of a relationship recently, so Mercury could represent a significant other. Whether this is his ex-wife or someone more recent, is largely irrelevant, because he is over it for the moment. The relationship may briefly resume, but I do not think it will last, primarily because his main focus is on you.

His “male biological needs” aspect is shown by the Sun. The Sun is in Virgo, so it really likes this other person. In Virgo, the Sun is in fall of Venus, so I am not sure that his physical attraction to you is as strong as his mental attraction to you. What’s interesting, however, is that shortly, the moon (your emotions) will trine Mercury. Mercury is in the moon’s way, as it were, before moon can trine Mars. In a sense, then, whatever Mercury represents prohibits the two of you from getting together in a long-term, meaningful way. As I said before, Mercury takes on two roles in this chart. One is your hopes and wishes, so it may simply be that your hopes for this relationship are higher than what he can deliver; or that Mercury represents some other person who will shortly come back into his life. The two are not mutually exclusive, obviously.

So where does that leave you? I think the two of you will continue to be able to work together in the future, but I just do not see the physical attraction on his part that would make a relationship possible. The good news is that even though he may “date” others, you will be on his mind primarily, perhaps because of your work relationship, and constant presence. Unfortunately, I know of very few men under the age of 100 who will get into relationships without some amount of physical attraction present.

—To all readers: to schedule a private consultation with Nina Gryphon, email her at nina@gryphonastrology.com. More information about private readings is on the “About Nina Gryphon” page.

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