Free Astrology Advice: Will He Come Back?

September 19th, 2006 at 12:37 am (Free Astrology Readings)

Free Astrology Advice - Horary Astrology - Allegory with Lovers

Question:

Just before the end of the September 7th Lunar Eclipse, I received terrible news from the love of my life. He has met someone else. Up until a few days ago the connection was quite strong. We talked about having a family and a life together. We met last year during the Mars transit thorugh Aries for close to seven months, so our relationship began on a rocky road. I understand that major decisions should not be made the week before an eclipse and it appears that this has been brewing on his part for some time now and decided to let it out on this Lunar Eclipse. I have a feeling him may have met her during July’s mercury retrograde. Will this relationship with the other woman last? Or is this just an interruption in our life? Please help, I am deeply hurt and devasted at this current ecliptic situation.

—G.

Nina Gryphon:

Dear G.,

I know how heartbreaking it can be when the person we love most - indeed, to whom we dedicated our future - crushes not only our hopes but our heart as well. If you happen to be looking for a life partner, this can really change your entire direction in life, and you have to reconsider your plans.

Let us take a look at the chart and see whether this other woman has your guy’s heart for good or not.

Free Astrology Advice - Horary Astrology - Will Lover Return?

In this chart, your thoughts are shown by Mars and your feelings are shown by the Moon. The man’s thoughts are shown by Venus (Lord 7), and his “must find woman” aspect is shown by the Sun. How are your thoughts? You are obviously quite troubled, as Mars is in its detriment in Libra. Libra is Venus’s sign, and since the man is Venus, you are troubled because you are thinking of him and love him. Notice that Mars has just moved into Libra from Virgo. In Virgo, Mars was a bit stronger, so you were doing rather better. However, Mars in Virgo is in the fall of Venus, so it harms Venus in some way. I do not know the exact history of your relationship, but you did mention that you had a long distance relationship for quite a while. So this was likely harming the man - he likely wanted more closeness, more attention, and probably plumped for someone a bit closer geographically to get those things.

What is going on with you emotionally? Moon is in Aries, where it exalts the Sun and is in Venus’s detriment. So you feel right now that your physical attraction to him is stronger than in reality (”he would have made a great husband, I just know it”), but you are understandably quite wounded by his recent actions (Moon in Venus’s detriment).

So what is happening with him? He is Venus, which has just entered its fall in Virgo. In Virgo, Venus is most interested in Mercury, who rules the sign. Hmmm, could Mercury be our “other woman?” Before entering Virgo, Venus was in Leo, the Sun’s sign. So until recently, he was most interested in finding a woman and getting his Sun biological needs fulfilled. Venus was not then and is not now very interested in Mars - you. I have doubts that, despite his protestations to the contrary, he ever took this relationship (and your plans) nearly as seriously as you did.

His biological needs are shown by the Sun in Virgo; like Venus, the Sun is in strong dignities of Mercury. So he is very physically attracted to whatever Mercury represents. We can be pretty certain that Mercury is this femme fatale. At the same time, the Sun is in fall of Venus, showing that the pull of his hormones is probably not very good for him. Is this new fling a wholesome relationship? No. Is he loving every minute of it? Yes.

Note that neither Venus nor the Sun are about to change signs in the near future, showing that his feelings are unlikely to change, at least in the foreseeable future. The new relationship may be on-again, off-again, since both the Sun and Venus are in a common, double sign. But it will probably go on for a while.

Just out of curiosity, let us see what is going on with this other woman. Mercury is very strong right now, in its own sign and exaltation in Virgo. This woman is quite desirable and she knows it. Note that since Mercury is in Virgo, it is in Venus’s fall. This woman harms your man in some way; perhaps she just treats him badly (and he comes back for more), or she is not a good influence. Soon, however, this will change. Mercury will conjoin the malefic South Node (something unpleasant might happen to her), and will then move into Libra, where it will love Venus. So she will have some kind of negative experience in the near future, and will decide that this man is the one for her, after all.

-To schedule a private consultation, contact Nina Gryphon at nina@gryphonastrology.com.

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15 Comments »

  1. Tiffany said,

    September 21st, 2006 at 8:04 pm

    Hello Nina,

    My story is quite a fairytale. I had met the most wonderful man as I was in the hospital. He came into my room and instantly I knew. We were such a radiant couple for 2 years, and then on my behalf we broke up. Now I would do anything to be with him again, for I was young and naive. Now that I am a little older,I realize that he was the one. What do I do? I write him letters and try to talk to him, but he will not give in. Perhaps I hurt him too much to respond, but I need to move on and I can’t move on until I either open or close this chapter of my life. Please help me.

  2. Tim said,

    February 2nd, 2007 at 1:46 pm

    I had been dating the woman of my dreams for 2 years. Then in September of 2006 she left me. It was a horrible break up in which I was fired and she was put on probation (we worked at the same place). After that she and I have never spoken but I sent her a card recently saying - I just wish we could call each other friends again. - and she asked her sister if she and I still talked. She has been seeing someone else but those that bring her up say that she is not happy with her life at this point. I am trying to get on with my life but I need to know - is he ever coming back? I love her very, very much.

    If it matters I was born March 23, 1971 and she was born June 1976.

    I am not sure what you need to know.

  3. Priacilla Guerrero said,

    March 5th, 2007 at 11:12 am

    I was dating this guy who is my whole life and world. we were together for about a year and five months and we always fight and break up but he never goes a week without calling me back and saying sorry and telling me he needs me. well about 2 weeks ago he broke up with me, we didn’t get in any fight he just said he didn’t want a girlfriend. it’s been two weeks and he hasn’t talked to me at all. i’m trying to move on but me and him went through so much together i can’t forget him. i would please like to know if he’s gonna want me back or just even wanna still be friends at least. please please help me i really love this guy and i feel like he’s moved on.
    His birth date is october 7 1989 and mine is september 24 1988. please help me.

  4. Becky said,

    March 18th, 2007 at 8:26 pm

    My story is similar to those above. I met someone and fell in love with him very fast. There was always a worry that I wasn’t the one for him, but he was much younger and that was always where the root of the problem seemed to be - a big fear that he had met someone so special at such a young age. After 2 years he finally called it quits in a very similar way to the last post. I really feel like he is the love of my life - he has come back before - will he again? I am 20.04.80, he is 27.06.86

  5. Becky said,

    March 18th, 2007 at 8:27 pm

    Apologies - I mis-typed my email address last time.

  6. Natalia said,

    March 20th, 2007 at 8:12 pm

    Well i don’t know if i waited too long for this but im willing to try anything and everything. Me and my ex bf have been broken up for 9 months i know its a long time. We were together for almost 2 years and lived together for pretty much most of that time, we just fell in love very fast and ya. Neways he really is the love of my life but I want him back very badly and the thing is that he has a g/f of 5 months already and I just think that it may be too late for him to come back to me i guess he must love her by this point and it must be getting pretty serious i mean 6 months is half way to a year but they don’t live together. I am just wondering will he ever come back to me or is it way to late for that since he seems to have moved on with his life. Deep down i think he still cares for me very deeply but there’s a lot of stuff between us right now. Do you think he’s using this girl to get over me? Btw we were eachother longest and most serious so maybe that’s why this hurts so much. I don’t know what to do anymore, his birthday August 1st 1984 and mine is February 18th 1985.

  7. dawn said,

    May 8th, 2007 at 3:14 pm

    i was with my ex for four years i was madly and deeply in love with him and still am.
    we still talk on the phone and he visits me some times.
    he is with someone else noe.
    but what i want to know is if they is still a chance of me getting back with him.
    when he has visited me has tryed kissing and touching me. do you still think they is a chance for me and how do i get back with him.
    please help this is driveing me crazy.

  8. dee said,

    May 21st, 2007 at 6:13 am

    I was with my boyfriend for 3 years, we went through so much together, and I helped him through some of the toughest things.. But then he decides he doesnt love me or want to be with me anymore.. Its been two months since we broke up and I miss him more than ever. I cant do anything without him, I’ve lost my best friend. He promised we’d still be best friends, but we’re not, we don’t even talk. I want him to come back, I know I can make him happy, and he can make me happy. I love him.. Please help. My date of birth is 4th January 1990 and his is 25th March 1988

  9. priya said,

    July 3rd, 2007 at 3:32 am

    i was just wondering if my 3 yr back love will come to me .

    i m 1 sept 1986 born & he is 19 oct 1985 born.

    plz help

  10. Felicity said,

    July 14th, 2007 at 4:21 am

    Hi. Seems to be a recurring theme. My husband and I were together for 11 years and he left me in November when I was three months pregnant, citing that he loved me, juts wasn’t in love with me and that he needed to test our relationship so that he’d know if he could recommit to me completely…. very confusing…. sending plenty of mixed signals (and loves our baby girl who arrived 20 April). My DOB 7/7/75, his 19/4/77… would really appreciate feedback on where he might stand and whether he’ll come back to us. Thank you so much.

  11. Christina said,

    July 30th, 2007 at 4:40 pm

    It was going to be 6 years the my ex and I were together and about 2 and a half months ago, we went to bed saying I love you and when I woke up and called him he said he wasn’t sure what he wanted but he didnt want anything serious. He’s dated other girls since and he says that we’re still friends but he barely speaks t o me and only calls when he’s “lonely” and wants something. We have been through so much together and I still can envision him as a part of my future no matter how much he’s hurting me. My DOB is May 26, 86 and his is July 4, 86. I just want to know if he’ll be back and if he is the right one I’m seeing myself spending the rest of my life with?

  12. Maria Antonieta said,

    September 3rd, 2007 at 8:57 am

    I was one year and a half with my boyfriend. We live in different countries. He is german i am southamerican. He met thru internet but we were such a nice couple. He came to my country and i did also. We had so many plans and we had such an incredible chemistry. He had a problem in May because one ex of mine. He thought i was betraying him, but i swear it is not like that!! Anyways we moved on and decided to treat the problem in person. But he never came, he gave me so many excuses. At the same time he says he will never forget me, that he thought i was the one, but he is insecure not of me but of his life. Its been now 2 months and i’ve been very very sad. Now i decided to move on cause he wont move one finger. I just want to know if he will look for me again? I would like to know if we are meant to each other and if we are going to be together!
    Help! thank you

  13. Maria Antonieta said,

    September 3rd, 2007 at 9:00 am

    I forgot to say on my previos comment: My birthdate is 23 of July 1.983 and he is 21 of April 1.978!! thank you!

  14. daniel said,

    September 11th, 2007 at 4:07 pm

    i love her so much but she has turned so cold she told me not to ring her any more we were together for five years. can friends get in theway of true love? i think it might be just me who feels this i dont want her to hurt in this way but i cant believe that it is just me feeing this way . nothing else seems to matter anymore i know im not the only one in this situation but it feels so endless everyone says just give it time let her work stuff out but i dont want this to end so i suppose it is just me being selfish i know i need time to heal but why does this happen it feels like i have been robbed of everything and a stain put on my heart . i dont want to find love anywhere else she was my world
    my dob is 1980 aug the 28th the best person i ever met is 1987 jan 9

  15. Mirjam Klever said,

    September 21st, 2007 at 5:40 am

    My boyfriend broke up with me 10 months ago 6 November 2006 after a relationship of 1 1/2 year. He thought we were more friends but liked me very much and he wasn’t sure. He is a lot younger then me. We didn’t contact a lot after the break up. I always am very happy and cheerful when I see him. Since the last three accidentely meetings he is very happy towards me as well, as in the beginning he was keeping himself at a distance. The last time I saw him in the pub and he made a real effort to chat with me. I kept it very short, afterwards he was watching me the whole time. When his new girlfriend put her arms around him he looked very sad and a bit lost.
    I really would like him back, do you think there is any chance?
    Mirjam Klever, 7 August 1967
    Liam Livett, 18 February 1982

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