Free Astrology Advice: Future of Our Relationship?
September 16th, 2006 at 2:42 am (Free Astrology Readings)
(I just couldn’t help myself and comment on this painting. Look at the Satyr at the top right. Mars is about to get one heck of a wake-up call!)
Question:
A foreign man came into my life who unwittingly became a catalyst for change and growth. Thanks to him I found a confidence in myself to go for and achieve those elusive goals in my life (appearance and career). What began as a friendship turned into an affair several years later. He drops into my life about every two years, asking if I’m still married (he is too).
My question is, will this ever become more than it is now? Which is very on and off. Yes, I am unhappily married, and am about to move into a new job that will take me to his country periodically. If it is currently all it is going to be, I want to write him off and forget about him as I move on. If it is not yet finished, I want to know. No matter what, I plan to get out this marriage at the first opportunity that is not harmful to my kids’ well-being.
—S.
Nina Gryphon:
Dear S.,
Congratulations for having your feet firmly planted on the ground. It seems to me from your letter that you have a good understanding of the nature of this relationship and your own needs, rather than using your unhappy marriage to declare him The One. It is a sign of real maturity. Let’s take a look at what lies ahead, shall we?
You are Mercury, lord of the 1st house, which is very strong right now, in its sign and exaltation. My sense is that here, it shows that you know your own mind, and are generally in a pretty good place mentally. Of course, as in several of the previous charts, Mercury is about to run into the South Node shortly. In this case, my guess is that it indicates the impending divorce. Mercury is in the detriment of Jupiter, which is your lover. So you know that the relationship is not everything you need.
Your emotions are the Moon in Aries, which exalts the Sun, his “male biological bits.” So for you, the relationship is primarily about the emotional support, though the exaltation suggests you are giving him a bit more credit for your transformation than is due.
Venus symbolizes your biological urge to find a mate. Venus is not very happy right now, as it is in fall in Virgo - this makes sense, as your existing mate is making you unhappy, and the lover is only around rarely. Too, Venus is in the sign of Mercury, so it is listening to what your head is saying, which is that you are not satisfied with this relationship.
What is going on with him? He is Jupiter in Scorpio. There he is in the detriment of Venus and in the fall of the Moon. He is both simultaneously harming your emotions (Moon) and your need for a good relationship (Venus).
His Sun, on the other hand, which is his sex drive, is in Virgo, and thus really likes Mercury (you). So he is interested in you physically. You are interested in him emotionally. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you this is not a recipe for success - I am not sure he has more to give you. That said, the situation as it is can continue indefinitely, or as long as you want. The Moon is about to conjunct the Sun by antiscion. The old synonym for conjunction is copulation; so yes, there may well be a hidden tryst in your near future.
I don’t think he has interest in making you a bigger part of his life than you are now. However, you don’t need him any longer, either.
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Krysta said,
September 18th, 2006 at 12:39 am
Hi Nina,
I have been enjoying your website. I am currently taking a correspondece course in Traditional Astrology, so it is also helpful to try to follow along on how you think your way through the chart.
I got a couple of questions, on the above chart you have Mercury in detriment and I got Venus, the wording applies, as it is the relationship needs not being met by having Venus in Jupiter’s detriment.
The second question has to do with Antisicion, which is the hidden part in the coming together of these two, as well as in the following chart on the marriage question, yes? Will the marriage have hidden elements to it? Does it have to do with Saturn? I got Mars, which is his Money (turned for his second house) as being in her first house, living on her income, which is Venus ( her second house). Mars is in her sign as a woman, and thinks ALOT of Saturn, a tiny bit on her and in it’s detriment and the fall of the sun, which is his abiltiy to be a man to her. (Her emotions,moon, doesn’t like Saturn at all as it is in it’s fall- could it be another woman or family member of his?) Maybe his mother?) Am I on the right track or did I go too far astay with picking up Mars? I thought it was representative of the guy in relationship charts, but I am just begining and have a long way to go. Thanks for indulging comments on your blog.
You are an impressive astrologist and I am glad to be able to have such inspirtation as I go forward with the baby steps I have to do in learning this amazing technique.
Thanks again, Krysta
gryphonastrology said,
September 18th, 2006 at 3:18 am
Dear Krysta,
Thank you for your very kind words; I am humbled. I purposely said that Mercury is in Jupiter’s detriment (Jupiter is in Venus’s fall, not detriment), as it shows the woman’s serious doubts about the lover and his view of her.
You raised a very interesting point about the antiscion. Yes, it is part of the marriage question as well, but did not make sense in that context. It does make sense in this question. Antiscia have to do with hidden things. In a question about an affair, this makes sense, since affairs are hidden. Unless we are given some information about potential cheating or whatever, the antiscion is not helpful in the marriage chart. Otherwise, we find everything happens to everyone.
I would be rather skeptical of using Mars and that line of analysis here. Not because it’s wrong astrologically, but because one can write an entire soap opera based on sheer fantasy. Sticking to the facts of the question will give you much better results.
Warmly,
Nina
Krysta said,
September 18th, 2006 at 10:11 am
Hmmm. Agreed. Too much off the subject creates too much fantasy.
I see where Mercury is in Jupiter’s detriment, but still don’t see Jupiter being in Venus’s fall. I got Jupiter in Scorpio as the detriment of Venus and the fall of the Moon. For Venus I have Jupiter in Detriment with Venus also in it’s fall. Regardless, it has been enlightening and a great learning experience to follow your insights. The fact of me being unable to keep up is not your concern, but my teachers who will fix me soon I am sure. I so enjoy tagging along for the learning and fun you offer.
Sincerly,
Krysta
gryphonastrology said,
September 18th, 2006 at 10:59 am
Dear Krysta,
Yes, that’s exactly right! Jupiter IS in Venus’s detriment, not fall. Anyway, thank you again for visiting and asking questions - I appreciate it very much. I wish you the very best of luck in your astrological studies. Astrology is really the great Art.
Warmly,
Nina
Question said,
January 9th, 2007 at 4:59 am
Is it possible to sent you a question of my lovelife? If so, how?
gryphonastrology said,
January 9th, 2007 at 7:47 am
Hi Question,
Go to my website and fill out the form. Instructions are on the Free Readings page.
Warmly,
Nina
zobaida said,
January 19th, 2007 at 8:23 am
my daughter’s name is Kizzy Tahnin. Date of birth 13 january 1981, Tuesday 9 A,M at Dhaka Bangladesh.
Which month, year she will get married, her husband’s profession , her own profession, will she stay at bangladesh or abroad, will the marriage arrange or love.
gryphonastrology said,
January 19th, 2007 at 10:43 am
Hi Zobaida,
I don’t take questions via the blog. Please use my reading requests page:
http://www.gryphonastrology.info/readingrequests.html
Warmly,
Nina
Mayu said,
February 2nd, 2007 at 10:30 pm
My friends name is mayu date of birth may 21 1983 2:00am at jaffna srilanka.
will she have kids in future or what kind of proffesional job would she be in?
Leesa said,
March 5th, 2007 at 7:22 pm
I would like to know if my husband is cheating on me or not and will our marriage last - as I am contemplating leaving him.
I am a Gemini - 08/06/1978
He is a leo - 23/07/1979
My name is Leesa
His name is HAidar
gousia said,
March 18th, 2007 at 10:11 am
helo i m gousia parveen from vijayawada .i m in love with a brahmin boy krishna mohan of hyderabad .and i want to know is whether our parents will accept our marriage .and we will be happy with this marriage?
sowmya shrere said,
March 22nd, 2007 at 4:32 am
im 26 old gowda gal. i want to know wether mine will be lova marriage ya arriage marriage.And when my marriage will take place. how i will lead my life with that marriage
atul kumar srivastava said,
September 28th, 2007 at 12:14 pm
hello i want to know my future can you tell me.i am waiting very eagrely because i this time is very crucial for me.