Gryphon Astrology Blog

Question:

Will I reconnect with my sweetheart? We dated all through high school, and reconnected several years ago, when he was going through a tough time. A few years after that, I told him I wanted closure, and never heard from him again. He recently moved out from the woman with whom he was living, because the relationship was not what he expected. It has been five years, and I could contact him, but I won’t.

—D.

Nina Gryphon:

These relationships that go on for a long time, on and off, are the bane of many of my clients. It’s as though it’s never really over, even when both parties say it is definitely over, for the last time. Of course, it is this lack of closure that drives people mad for years, or even decades. Did he really mean it? He obviously didn’t mean it the last time he said good-bye!

In a chart cast for the moment I received the question, D., the client, is represented by Saturn in Leo (in the Sun’s dignities, so it really loves whatever the Sun represents). What is the Sun? It is the man’s biological urge to find a mate. Our client is very interested in the man as Man - she is looking for a mate, first and foremost.

The corresponding planet for her as a woman is Venus. Venus is in Virgo, where it is in the strong dignities of Mercury (sign and exaltation), so she is very interested in whatever Mercury represents. Mercury here rules the 5th and 6th houses; the 5th house is the house of pleasure, sex, and children. Note that on a physical level, the client does not seem very attracted to the man himself.

How is the man? We see that the Sun, him as a biological male, is in Virgo, in the fall of Venus. He is not interested in the client as a mate. The Sun is not very strong in Virgo, so it is unlikely that he could live up to D’s high expectations of him, perhaps because he is not very interested in pairing up with anyone.

The man as a personality is ruled by the 7th house, so he is the Moon in Aries. In Aries, the Moon is in strong Mars dignities. The Moon has recently separated from an opposition to Mars; could this be the man’s recent break-up that D. mentions? If so, the man is still dealing with the break-up - he may be out of the relationship, but his mind is still on it for good or bad. The Moon is also in the exaltation of the Sun; so he will do whatever his biological urges tell him. Unfortunately for the client, they are telling him that she is not of interest. Too, the Moon is in the fall of Saturn, so there is yet more evidence he is not interested in pursuing a relationship with the client.

We do not see close aspects between the client’s significators (Venus and Saturn) and the man’s significators (Moon and Sun), so it is unlikely that D. will have the opportunity to reconnect with the man in the near future. Even if they did, there is not enough mutual attraction to make it into a lasting relationship.

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